Why not try it?

Polyamory: taking things to the next level

Is monogamy realistic in these times? Isn’t it an outdated tool of patriarchy? Gay men have long pioneered new types of relationships. Open relationships abound. And they bring happiness and fulfillment. But Gay Polyamory takes things to another level. This means it’s still widely misunderstood and unfairly judged. Our quick guide to Gay Polyamory shows you what to expect when the maxim is The More the Merrier.

 What is the difference between monogamy and Gay Polyamory?

Think monogamy and you see an old married couple. They’ve been together for 50 years. It looks very respectable. And cosy. Or just boring. But they made marriage vows so they remain together. Even if spousal murder is often on their minds. Monogamy is when a person has only one intimate partner at any one time. The majority of people practice it. Many appallingly. Many others think it’s a myth. Enter a bold, even radical alternative. Gay Polyamory. This gay couple has multiple intimate partners. Types of polyamorous relationships vary. But the common denominator is the belief that an individual can’t be satisfied by only one partner. Not on every level: sexual, emotional and intellectual. To list just a few.

What things are not classed as Gay Polyamory?

Trust, honesty and freedom characterise polyamorous relationships. The couple has agreed that they’re in romantic and/or sexual relationships with other people. Crucially, this isn’t the same as cheating. Or an open relationship. Or the neighbourhood sex swingers. For a great example of the challenges and joys of Gay Polyamory, check out Gays.com column Three Boys and a Cat.

Is a Gay Polyamorous relationship right for me?

The hard and fast rule. Don’t choose polyamory to fix a failing relationship. A sticking plaster alone can’t heal wounds. You must genuinely believe in Gay Polyamory. And that’s not the same as pretending you believe in it because your partner does. Are you an excellent communicator? Do you feel secure in your existing relationship? Are you ready to be completely honest even if it hurts your partner’s feelings? Do you think you’ll be happy seeing your partner find happiness with other men? Moreover, do you have the self-awareness to tackle jealousy and other tricky emotions as they arise? Which they will. Yes? A Gay Polyamorous relationship may be for you. Want to know more about what to expect before committing? Find guys practicing Gay Polyamory in Gays.com chat rooms.

Discussions and topics about Polyamory

  • Open relationship dilemma

    I've been together and living with my boyfriend for over a year, and now he says he wants to open up the relationship. Part of me feels up for it, but can't help feel totally uncomfortable with it. ...
  • Members who are looking for Polyamory

    I am a 76 years young male, from southern European background, considered handsome, fit every where needed, and slim with a smooth body. I am looking for a very special friendship complimented with a vibrant and passionate sexual component, with a masculine man in his very late 40s and older. Please respect my age preference.

    I am well educated, 5' 7", 145 lbs, 32" waist, very smooth body and nature provided me well. I am located east of Toronto, in Canada. Although I do not post a picture, I will be able to show you what I look like. I am undoubtedly confident that my looks will not be disappointing.

    Making Love should be magic in Paradise, in a combination of mind, heart and body, all merged in perfect harmony. I love sex, a lot, but it is so much better when you have it with love.

    After having read the above, please allow me to summarize facts that may be of interest to you:

    • I do not want to marry you; I want to share you and be a part of you
    • I do not want to move in with you; I only want to know that you are there
    • I do not want to enslave your heart; I only want to be embraced by it
    • I do not want to run your life; I only want to nourish it
    • I do not want to change you; I want to learn from you
    • I will not be your slave; and you will not be my master
    • I do not want your money; I have my own
    • I do not want a husband; I want a lover and a best friend
    • I do not want to hinder your freedom; I want to help you to value it
    • If you are sad and unhappy I want to be you joy
    • If you feel lonely, I want you to know that I exist.
    • If you are married I understand your need without judgment---you already made that judgment and it was painful enough.
    • If a 3rd person enriches your relationship, I will believe in "Polyamory."
    • If you ask me if I want to "F***," I will candidly say that I want to make love.
    • If you ONLY seek a picture, you will miss the "person; if you seek the "the person" you will get the whole and real picture.

      We are all on this site because we miss something. And being judged is not part of it. Values, truth and correctness are all social constructs---straight, gay, closet, out; single, married, partnered or committed. Who gives a damn? Just be a good person! If you are still interested, I would welcome your message. Maybe I will find my magic.

    Love & Relationships60 to 85 years ● 50km around Canada, Ajax 10 months ago

    Other terms for Polyamory

    Keywords: Polyamory, Poly, Open Relationship, Threesome

    Similar preferences as Polyamory

    Mopping up the mess after a heavy session can be an arduous task. Even if you possess a wipe-down mattress. Far better to jump in the shower and cleanse yourself in hot bursts. And while you’re at it, why not go for round two or three? Or perhaps flip things and commence your shagathon under those gushing jets. But be warned. Shower sex is not as easy as porn makes out. Here’s our advice on steaming things up sexily and safely.
    Gay men have a long and cherished relationship with outdoor sex. There’s nothing quite like the thrill of a furtive fumble or indeed full-on thrustathon in the bushes. Gay Outdoor cruising grounds exist the world over. The lure of the orgasm is insurmountable. Whatever the weather, you’ll find guys rambling through woodland or hiding in the dunes in search of prime Rumpleforeskin.
    Sometimes we want it fast. It’s a case of whipping out the wanger and going straight for home base. But then there’s the unparalleled pleasure of delay. The anticipation that fuels desire. Think back to the first time you saw a stripper strut his stuff. Unleashing the weapon in a Gay Striptease is an art form. Why? Because disrobing slowly places you firmly in the present moment. So reach for those briefs, oil up and channel your inner GoGo dancer. It’s showtime, boys!