All relationships go through boring patches. That’s life. And LGBT relationships are no different in that respect. But the big difference between these and straight partnerships is that LGBTs generally have a more relaxed attitude to opening their relationships up. And why not? As long as the relationship is solid and you’ve established trust and boundaries, there’s no reason not to add an extra frisson by borrowing someone else’s partner; just make sure you return them when you’re done – or, even better, watch on as they roll and around and get mucky with your loved one. You may even learn a few new tricks.