S&M

Like Ying and Yang

Do you have a high pain threshold? Or consider yourself to be unbreakable? Do you crave humiliation? Or perhaps you get off on inflicting pain? The world of Gay S&M - sadomasochism - awaits. Too often misunderstood and stigmatised, Gay S&M offers one of the most vibrant and inclusive kink communities. Think you’re hard enough to take it? Read on.

 Gay S&M is part of the BDSM umbrella. And stands for sadism and masochism. This means that it’s made up of two types of individuals. Firstly, you have the sadist. The guy who inflicts the pain. Secondly, you gave the masochist. The guy who loves nothing more than receiving that pain. Sometimes partners will switch. They’ll take turns being active or passive. And then of course you have the pain itself. This is frequently physical. But it can also be emotional or psychological. However, crucially, all acts involved in Gay S&M must be consensual. It’s never the same as sexual violence.

Think of Gay S&M as a sport. An extreme sport. And as with all sports, you train for it. You start slowly and then build up your endurance. And as with all extreme activities, Gay S&M comes with risks as well as rewards. But at the core of Gay S&M is Risk Aware Consensual Kink. This means that you’re aware that play always involves a degree of risk. And that you’ve consented to that. But that vital steps have been put in place to ensure that all concerned behave responsibly. And the importance of this can’t be overstressed. Why? Because in some cases you’re almost putting your life in someone else’s hands. Consequently, trust is essential. And it takes time to build that trust. This means before you start playing you should get to know your partner.

What turns you on about the idea of Gay S&M? It varies hugely. And there are multiple ways you can practice it. These range from a few light slaps to literally being put on a rack. But whatever you choose, S&M can and should be healthy. So long as you’re doing it for the right reasons. And because it’s built on trust it has the power to improve connection and intimacy. This can then translate to multiple other areas of your relationship outside of the sexual sphere. However, to get the most out of this, ensure you communicate your needs and desires clearly. Because there can be no blurred lines with Gay S&M. This is serious stuff. Know what you’re getting into. And why. And also how you can get out of it if it gets too much. Sick of a little slap and tickle? Craving it rough? So are thousands of other guys on Gays.com. Find them for free today.