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Femmes

Proud embracers of feminimity

Gay Femmes: Legions of admirers

Gay Femmes proudly embrace aspects of female appearance and behaviour. Sadly, this means they’re often ridiculed by other gay men who demand ‘masc-only’ men and ‘no camps’. But they remain undeterred. And in making bold statements about their identity and desires, they have legions of admirers.

 What is a Femme?

 The image of the effeminate gay man has long been demonised. Both by straight society and within the gay community. Indeed, the advent of hyper-masculine clone culture in the 1970s was a backlash against Gay Femmes. However, in recent times, Gay Femmes have had a resurgence. Shows like RuPaul’s Drag Race celebrate the blurring of gender, as do fashion designers. Yes, Gay Femmes are moving into the mainstream. To answer the question of what is a femme we need to think about looks as well as behaviour. Gay Femmes don’t fit stereotypical perceptions of masculinity. They refuse to hide mannerisms that people may consider camp. Moreover, their clothes will include colours and styles often more associated with women. These choices can be seen as a political statement.

How are Gay Femmes different from Trans people?

Transgender refers to an individual’s gender identity. Firstly, it’s distinct from sexual orientation. And secondly, Trans is an umbrella term. It’s used by anyone whose internal experience of gender doesn’t match the sex that they are given when they’re born. There are many dangerous misconceptions about what it means to be Trans. These are the foundation of prejudice. Similar misunderstandings surround Gay Femmes. Gay Femmes are not necessarily Trans people. For example, a Gay Femme can be a cisgender male. But he may simply enjoy adopting the mannerisms or looks of a female. The key is always checking with an individual to find out which words they wish to use to describe themselves. Start by chatting to Gay Femmes of Gays.com.

What clothes do Gay Femmes wear?

Anything and everything! Like everyone, they choose to wear different clothes for different occasions. And those clothes reflect their personality. So you won’t necessarily find them dressing in skirts and blouses. They may like to mix it up and defy expectations. What's better than a pair of killer heels with an otherwise typically masculine pair of jeans? Or perhaps a splattering of exquisite lace? Importantly, they may decided to dress differently depending on whether they're in a private or public space. But whatever they opt for, their focus is on dismantling redundant notions about what a man or a woman should look like. And not before time.

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Similar preferences as Femmes

A Gay Sissy has cross-gendered interests and enjoys dressing in female clothing and adopting feminine behaviour. He may or may not identify as transgender. However, a part of him may also feel more like a woman than a man. He chooses where he plays out his sissyhood. And this can be in or outside the sexual arena. Crucially, a Sissy Boi identifies as gay. This means that he is not the same as a straight man who may decide to present himself as a woman.
Even now, outside and within the LGBT+ community, Gay Crossdressing is often seen as taboo. It’s increasingly common for women to wear men’s clothes. But if men opt for female attire, they risk being dismissed as some form of a deviant. Myths abound. Chief of these is that most crossdressers are straight men. But Gay Crossdressing is far more popular than many realise.
Gone are the the days when gay dating sites were the domain of cisgender gay men only. Happily, they are now often a safe space for Gay Trans men and their many admirers too. But despite advances in equality, prejudice sadly remains. And we all have a duty to challenge it, both online and in the real world. Let’s take a look at the things you should know about building a mutually fulfilling relationship with a Gay Trans man.