Discreet

Keep it to yourself!

If you're discreet then you’ve set firm parameters about your sex life. Discreet guys have sex with men. But crucially, privacy defines these interactions. A discreet guy is not necessarily out to everyone. Indeed, he may not even consider himself to be ‘gay’. This can present challenges. However, it can also be a big turn-on for admirers of discreet guys.

 Typically, he'll blend in. You’re not going to find him flailing around in rainbow-coloured crop-tops. Or maniacally lip-synching to Lady Gaga. God forbid. He’s more likely to be your big, burly next-door neighbour. That football-obsessed, heavy-drinking family man could love nothing more than playing hide the bratwurst in his off-hours. And that’s the appeal of these guys. They’re full of surprises. The most masculine straight-looking specimen may deliver the pile-driving of your life. Discreet guys are plentiful on dating sites like Gays.com. But they may not have face pictures on their profiles. Additionally, they may withhold a fair amount of written information. But you can expect discreet guys to be upfront at the start about not being publicly out.

Everyone has a different story. And each individual has valid reasons for how far they open the closet door. The stereotypical discreet guy is married with kids. Or he may have a girlfriend. Indeed, he could have several - and boyfriends too. Moreover, his partner(s) may be aware of his sexual proclivities. Or not. Even today, there’s still significant prejudice directed at out gay guys. This is particularly strong within hyper-masculine cultures. Religion also plays a key role. Given this, some guys just don’t feel able to come out. Moreover, they may not even consider themselves to be gay. Sexuality is a rich and broad-spectrum. And labels can be both intimidating and limiting.

If a guy is already in a committed relationship with another person, he may only be looking for one-time hookup. Or perhaps he’s seeking a friend with benefits arrangement. Few things are hotter than a prime chunk of man meat furtively popping round to give you a good probing. As long as that’s what you both want. The key is for both of you to be open about what you’re looking for. And to respect one another’s boundaries.