No one wants to look at a blank profile on a dating site. And in this age of Smartphones and webcams, there’s no excuse for withholding an image of your face. But then there are the other images. Close-up shots of the schlong. Glimmering glimpses of the twitching starfish. It’s a buyers’ market and many of us want to see what we’re going to get in advance of a hot rendezvous. It’s all about the titillation. And in the 21st century, we’re all amateur porn stars.
This is certainly one of the most popular scenarios in gay male porn: the strapping coach putting the willing student through his paces after a sweaty game of soccer. It’s a typical high school fantasy - and not just the preserve of gay men: how about that hot lady hockey teacher of your adolescent dreams? In adult life, thanks to gay gyms (which frequently double up as saunas), you can make these locker rooms fantasies realities. If you’re in a non-gay space be cautious and make sure your advances are welcome. Even if you can’t touch, you can still look, of course - discreetly though.
Phone sex lines have existed for decades, and you’ll find them the smutty section at the back of many LGBT magazines alongside the escort ads. Indulge in your wildest fantasies with a stranger, or just make the requisite grunting and groaning noises – or if you want revenge on a noisy neighbour, scream the place down. Thanks to the joys of the internet, Skype sex is also now an option – but you have to comb your hair and put your teeth in for this one, of course. Then there are chat rooms, catering to every conceivable taste.