yvaughn Posted July 25, 2015 *STOP making excuses for a man and his behavior. *Allow your intuition to save you from heartache. *Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better. *Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. *If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends.” *A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. *Don’t settle if you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” *You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. *The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Always have your own set of friends separate from his. *Maintain boundaries in a how a guy treats you. *If something bothers you, speak up. *Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. *You cannot change a man’s behavior. CHANGE COMES FROM WITHIN. *Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are… even if he has more education or a better job. *Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. *Never let a man define who you are. *Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated wih you, he’ll cheat on you. *A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. *All men are not dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending… compromise is a two way street. *You need time to heal between relationships…there is nothing cute about baggage… deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. *You should never look for someone to complete you… a relationship consists of two whole indivuduals… look for someone complimentary…not supplementary. *Dating is fun…even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right. *Make him miss you sometimes…when a man always knows where you are, you’re always readily available to him - takes it for granted. *Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man. *Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. *Keep him in your radar but get to know others.