Introducing the new!

Over the past few months we’ve been working hard on bringing you a bigger, brighter and better - and we’re excited to announce that it’s here!  

With the new look and feel, improved navigation and search, you’ll find the new easier to use and explore. We’ve also introduced some great new features - all aimed to give you a better experience and to find exciting dates and sexual encounters.
So, what’s under the hood?

Responsive design
We gave you what you wanted - a fresh new version where you can flirt, chat, date or hookup easily on desktop, mobile or tablet. As we don’t have any app store limitations, you don’t lose all those XXX photos we know you love and enjoy. The new responsive design lets you browse comfortably wherever you are, on whatever device.  

Activity Stream
The activity stream is an exciting new feature. From the logged in homepage you can now stay up-to-date with all the people you’re interested in. You can like, rate and comment on sexy photo uploads, get updates from all your connections, check out hot new locations, view new threads and vote on raunchy photo comp entries. And that’s not all, your activity stream is fully customizable - you choose what you see, and from whom.
Profiles and Dating
Profiles have received an improved layout and are now customizable so you can really express who you are. We’ve improved the Personal Ads feature so that you can promote your ad in the activity stream to get more exposure, and added a growing list of sexual preferences, so it’s easier to find someone who’s into the same as you.

Souped Up Search
When searching profiles, the improved larger grid view lets you see more of who you’re interested in before you click. We’ve also made searching for a date a little more anonymous - if you click on a profile and the person you’re interested if isn’t for you, you have 30 seconds to cover your tracks by clicking on the counter around the profile picture.

Places and Events
With Places and Events you can now view, create, manage and promote your own listings page. So, whether it’s a gay event, party or an outdoor cruising area to have fun with other guys, we’ve made it easy for you to create, share and own your content.

Improved Messaging
We know it can be a drag to keep opening new windows every time you receive a message, now you don’t have to. With the improved messaging feature, we’ve added chat boxes so you can have multiple chats simultaneously - just open the tab at the bottom right of the screen to open up all your conversations.

There’s more to this new release so feel free to have a poke around. At we’re committed to meeting your every need, so if you have any feedback, let us know. We hope you enjoy the improved!
The team

Love & Sex

London’s Gay Saunas: A Guide

Look at the website of any gay sauna in the world and they’ll either describe themselves as ‘the best’ or ‘the busiest’ - then you walk through the door and find the only cocks there are a couple of cockroaches getting it on in the grouting of the Jacuzzi. gives you the real lowdown on London’s finest ‘Gentlemen’s Health Spas’.

The Stable
Tucked away just off Covent Garden, this small but well-appointed sauna was formerly known as Saunabar. Why it’s now called The Stable is anyone’s guess – and the name itself does not necessarily guarantee a parade of horse hung hunks who can take your eye out at ten paces. The main space is a long bar complete with elegant seating and kind lighting; indeed, it rather resembles one of the more sophisticated gay bars – if you can imagine such a thing. Run a tab in between taking a dip in the giant Jacuzzi – the biggest one in any gay sauna in London, and retreating to one of the private cabins for some noisy action.

Chariots Vauxhall
Branches of Chariots used to be all over London – like a fast food chain - for fellatio. The Liverpool street venue, in east London, was for many years the largest sauna in the UK but sadly closed earlier this year to make way for yet another luxury hotel, which will probably just be used for much the same purpose: as a knocking shop – only for fat, middle-aged straight men. Chariots Vauxhall is now the flagship. Its boasts 500 lockers, a dark room and two vast saunas. The place is huge and popular with the clubbing crowd, however, the rigorous door searches and security’s tendency to march up and down the maze of corridors shining lights on the clientele to check they’re not doing anything they’re not supposed to is arguably a downside. But there’s something refreshingly liberating about falling out of here at 10am after a night of infinite shame to face the MI6 building which sits opposite.

One of London’s oldest gay saunas is just across the road from Waterloo train station, and yes, you guessed it – under a railway arch, meaning you can time your squirtathon with the roar of a commuter express overhead. Like European saunas, this one also has a bar (rare for London), complete with cheap doubles and a license to serve them 24 hours a day! There’s a 400-locker changing room, dark room, three saunas, a Jacuzzi and a plenty of private cabins – some of which you can rent by hour – much like some of the men you’ll find in these establishments.

Chariots Waterloo
Just around the corner from Pleasuredrome is Chariot’s only other London branch (it previously had venue in Streatham, south London, now also closed). There’s a 40-man sauna and 35 cabins, along with a mini-café which at least used to serve a reasonable lasagne, but to be fair anything tastes reasonable when you’ve been on a 12-hour bender – including the men.

Sailors Limehouse
After a night of wading through the great unwashed beards of east London’s hipsters, Sailors offers a much welcome bit of civilisation: a large TV lounge (which admittedly on a bad night can resemble the reception room of a retirement home), a 20-man Jacuzzi (if you can find 20 men you’re happy to swish around with) and two floors of cabins. The White Swan pub – an east end institution known for its fabulous drag acts – is close by, meaning that afterhours can bring a fine selection of east end rough trade.

Image: Courtesy of Sweatbox Soho

London saunas don’t come any better than Sweatbox. Situated in the throbbing heart of Soho – a short walk from the gay village – this gay owned and run establishment revolutionises the sauna experience: it’s a sauna and a gym rolled into one. Open 24 hours, seven days a week, you can join as a member or choose from a variety of passes letting you come and go as you please. Let’s face it, when we lie back in that steam room it’s not our pores we’re gagging to get opened. Whatever your taste, you’ll find the hottest guys here – often revved up and ready to go fresh from their workout. Brace yourself indeed!

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Love & Sex

Rekindling the flame

All relationships go through tough times, straight or gay. The trick is weathering them and coming out the other end – preferably stronger. Alex Hopkins takes a look at the ways you can avoid that ‘Brangelina’ breakup.

Get inventive in the bedroom
Once the sex goes, you know you’re in trouble. Hard questions are needed: do you still fancy one another? If not, why is there no longer an attraction? Try out some new tricks. Blindfold him with that floral tea-towel your auntie got you for Christmas or take up dogging/parking lot sex – get adventurous.

The reason most relationships fall apart is because people don’t talk to one another. Sharing your feelings is vital if you’re going to keep things alive. But brace yourself for some cold hard truths. Utter honesty is the ground zero you can rebuild from.

Create moments
Life and routine has taken over. All you both ever seem to do is work, and then you just plunk yourself in front of the TV each evening. Do something special once a week. Recreate the date nights from your early days together. Pretend you’re ‘courting’ again, as the straights said in the old days.

Pros and cons
What brought you together in the first place? What is keeping you together now? Sometimes a good dose of pragmatism is called for. What are the benefits of staying in this relationship? Ultimately, you need to look at the payoffs and decide whether it’s worth investing any more of your time here.

Get funny, get cheeky – even get bitchy. If it means you both find something to scream with laughter about, do it. Lighten things up. Laughing together is a quick, easy way of releasing pressure and getting rid of that anger.

Stop being boring
You know what they say about straights becoming boring once they’ve been together a few years, well it’s no different with gays. You’ve stopped seeing your friends, you’re spending your Sundays at the DIY store, and you’ve now got three cats who you talk to more than one another. It’s time to get back into the real world. Reconnect with others, take up some new interests – together.

When did you stop telling him he looked hot? If you’ve stopped getting compliments from him, it’s probably because you’ve stopped giving them. You’re taking one another for granted; neither of you are making the effort to make one another feel attractive anymore, which of course, increases the probability that you’ll go seeking that extra frisson outside your relationship. Act now!

Cut the hostility
You’re giving one another the look of Eva Braun. The atmosphere in your home is like a mass comedown at a chillout. When it gets to the point that you dread being in one another’s company, desperate measures are called for. Someone needs to break the stalemate – make it you.

Open things up…
Open relationships are common in gay life, but that doesn’t mean they’re for everyone. Still, it’s a conversation you can have. If it’s just the sex that’s died, then this may work – but if something deeper is wrong, flinging your DNA at strangers could just be a quick fix which could lead to an even greater explosion, so consider carefully…