Role play is all about spicing up your sex life, giving you the opportunity to inhabit different characters in a vast array or situations. It’s all about the psycho dynamic between two people, and is usually about playing with ideas of power and submission and dominance. Become a willing plumber popping by to fix your partner’s boiler or – so many gay men’s fantasy – the coach and the willing, flexible student. Your costumes can be as simple or extravagant as you like, and it’s up to you how heavy the scene becomes, and plenty of inspiration can be found in BDSM if that’s your thing.
There was a time when a girl had to beg her parents to have her ears pierced. It was seen as a rite of passage, a sign of maturity. Now they’re so common place on both men and women that what was once a statement of rebellion is just another pretty accessory. Unless, of course, you want to push the boundaries and have endless studs and bars dotted all over your features: now, that’s still a potent way of communicating difference and a character that rages against the machine. For some, attraction is irrestistible.