Always be true to yourself.
I happily married with 6 children. My husband and I try to find someone for me to play with occasionally. He only watches, but also must be there. I do not do anything without him. I certainly wouldn't want him to think I was leaving him out! He can at least watch! LOL
I spend my time at home taking care of my family and occasionally like to go out on the town dancing and drinking. If we find someone that wants to play so be it. I am a little shy at first, but once I get going, watch out!!!!