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Katy_Gall
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I feel like the only Bisexual woman that has never had sex with a female. I have wanted to since my youth and have never found the right time/woman. Heres hoping.
Kath ....female sexually frustrated :P


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jessicazylee
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you're definitely not the only one. I'm actually rather conservative and prudish when it comes to the idea of sexual intimacy. Many people see this as at odds with my identity; I remember, very distinctly, one year I was speaking on an LGBTQ panel for students at my university. One student asked a question 'directed at the bisexuals', as to whether we had difficulties switching from having sexual relations with one gender, then to the other. The moderator pitched it to me; I answered that I had no idea since I did not engage in premarital sex, nor was I intending to. That floored the audience.


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Katy_Gall
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Im not prudish I quite like being intimate and sexual...and I feel like I want to experience it , need to experience it.
So Jessica, you are sexually attracted to women but don't act on it? is that right? You must have been tempted?

Kath xx


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Heather_Giellis
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I was that girl for many years, I have been with my man for almost nine years now and after many years of discussing my sexuality we came to find that we would give being poly a try because I wanted to experience being with a woman at some point in my life, but I refuse to leave my man to do so. I finally met a lady that was okay with our relationship and it was her and I alone cause she asked that the first time be just the two of us. After that night I realized I was definitely bi. I did later explain to her that I wanted Joe involved as well cause just her was not enough for me. Needless to say there was not another sexual encounter with her, but she still talks to us from time to time(she did kiss him more like made out with him lol and right infront of me, but I don't think she was ready for the both of us) the next girl was in a relationship with us, and only spent one night in our bed. She did fool around with us, but because she was virgin and from out of state she didn't want to go all the way that night. She broke it off a few weeks later. She was fun, but not as much fun as the first girl. This all happened in the last year and a half... Sometimes good things come to those
whom wait. And they were both great experiences, they proved to me what I wanted out of a woman and Joe and I know now we are poly and we continue our "picky" search for the perfect lady for us! Soooo don't settle for just any woman and for sure continue your pursuit for a great woman to finally have that experience with. Know inside yourself whom you are, I knew I was bi way before I had sex with a woman.


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jessicazylee
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I'm the kind of person who doesn't even necessarily hold hands until after a few dates or weeks at least. I also began dating later than most of my peers [I went my first date was when I was 18]. Currently, I have only been in three relationships [including my current one].

Of course I've been tempted by women, but I can't stand the idea of being intimate with someone unfamiliar with me. I also really don't like it when people don't respect my boundaries, which gets problematic since people automatically assume that bisexuality means promiscuity, and many ppl get pushy and resentful when I don't give. I don't like that, and I will and have walked away when that happens. Oddly enough, I have gotten that pressure more from women than men. In addition, there really is a numbers game at play; who am I going to encounter more, women who like women or men who like women?

There are some days when I somewhat wonder what I'm going to miss out on, since my current partner are both very committed and foresee a very long term, committed and dedicated relationship [we have back and forthed on the marriage issue, mainly because we are both atheists and we're gay rights activists. it just doesn't seem right that we can marry because we happen to be an opposite sex relationship, while others cant]. But I also feel, that since I wont be intimate with anyone I'm not in a committed relationship, it's just something I'm going to give up the possibility of, to be with my partner. If something were to happen to us, then I'll entertain the possibility of again. But if that never happens because I'm with him, quiet frankly, he is worth it.


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Katy_Gall
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wow..thanks you guys, I really appreciate the input and in-depth advice/opinion. Im not sure where this is going to go for me, I dont really want to involve my marriage, I want this to be totally private for now.
Once again thanks
kath x


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jessicazylee
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all relationships require some sort of sacrifices and risks. some people are able to try 3somes and moresomes, or even polyamory. others, don't feel comfortable with that. I've been asked what I thought of threesomes later, and I feel that I don't care if other people try it, but I probably won't. you can consider this, if you wish.

I'm strictly monogamous, and my current partner is demisexual [he is unable to have sexual attraction to anyone he doesn't love romantically. Which means stuff like, he isn't attracted to anyone other than me... no porn, no pretty girl walking past, nothing. He claims to be unable to masturbate unless it's to me.]


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Kimberley_Henderson
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if you are bi it will happen for you soon try a all girls weekend these some on the internet they are great way to get started


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jessicazylee
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if i'm with rishabh for the rest of my life, i'm okay with staying the way i am.


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Katy_Gall
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all girls weekends?? maybe for one night I could but cannot justify a full weekend away, I have 2 kids you see xx


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Kimberley_Henderson
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Just a good way to dip your toes in the waters. As i said it all on you feel and when your ready take your time go with your gut


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I did have a girlfriend when I was married to a man the 1st time (I cheated with her on him). She was killed by her x-husband while I was out of town at a family funeral, I have had a hard time with accepting this tragedy, and have not had a girlfriend in the last 18 years because of this. I do still want one.


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Katy_Gall
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OMG that is terrible...


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Thank You Katy. I will get into another relationship with another female, when the time is right again.


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