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[Michael_Wolfe]

I have talk about my open relationship and why we have one but I would like to know if there are couples on here that has been in a relationship for more then 7yrs and what is there opinion and anyone else that would like to ask a question or leave comment can too...

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Mike

[Deleted Member]

I would like to say something
I think an open relationship is just a relationship where you openly cheat on your partner, it can actually hurt them and may lead into a childish war where you sleep with as many blokes as you can just to score brownie points and that is a potentially dangerous thing to do!
Yes an open relationship maybe one of the most honest relationships you can have because if you do sleep with someone else you don't have to hide it and lie about 'where you were last night' but then again if you both decide to close the relationship and concentrate on each other how will you be able to trust your partner and know they won't go on try it on with someone else.

I have never had an open relationship and I am dead set against them and will never have one, however, that's just me...

[Janian_Nenanivik]

my feelings on this are complicatd some but i don't know, I guess if it's a mutual agreed upon thing where both partners are on the same plane it's probably ok and will be just fine . yes complications could happen definitely im sure, but if your deeply in love and you decide to close the relationship, I think youll probably be able to do that just fine. or it may take some work . but then all relationships take work , and don't many relationships go thruogh changes? some of us have different views on love an d it's breadth ,I guess you can say. I've considered being in a poly amoruose relationship as in three people . not more as that would be too complicated. but if i met the right guy, i could be happy in just a monogamose relationship w him. just my op. not gospel or anything. believe what feels best for you.

[Jony_Star]

well it can't be called cheating if your partner knows about it...i may not want an open relationship myself...but well that's other people's decisions...and their lifestyle...and i don't see a problem if both people agree to have an open relationship...again that's just not me though...

[Michael_Wolfe]

Ok guys lets see frist we have been together for 23yrs and a open relationship is not cheating and the other thing is that they leave not us..they are more then willing to come back and most do..Now don't take this the wrong way but have any of you guys been in a relationship were you live with someone??

Thank you for your comments:

[Andrew_W._Matheson_43902]

Tues. June 28th, 11, 18:50 Hrs. M.D.T.
Hi Group,
Interesting Topic. I've Been in a Relationship With a Guy Going on 24 Yrs. I as a
Rule Consider it "Common Law". He Considers It Roomie's. I Know He Has Brought Other Guys Home for Sex, I Haven't Played Around Much as a Few
Times - Nothing Serious. He is a Dominate Top and I'm More a Submissive Bottom Type Person so He Calls the Shots on the Relationship. Open Relationship - Probably, But I Tend to B More Loyal to the Guy I'm Living With Rather then Picking Up Guys for Sex etc.
Just My Views But I'm Open to other Opinions etc,
Tnx,
Operater.

[Michael_Wolfe]

Thx Andreww for your comment...

[Deleted Member]

Open Relationship and cheating - wouldn't you say it a matter of opinion, Michael? There is no right or wrong answer in MY opinion it IS cheating, because I believe ONE guy is enough - let's not be greedy, another reason why I dislike cheaters and open relationships is because you CAN catch something and you may pass it onto your partner or someone else

[Jony_Star]

well Richard i'm not trying to prove you wrong...like you i'm stating my own opinion...you've stated that you still consider it cheating even if you're in an open relationship...and well i disagree with that opinion that's all...like you said...there's not right or wrong answer because this is all a matter of opinion...we shouldn't turn this into a debate really...as for your question Mike...no i haven't had a relationship while living with a guy...so can't really give any input on that...

[Neil_Hilde]

I have lived with a guy for just over two years.
Was it an open relationship? No.
Did I ever cheat on him. No.

I would have welcomed an open relationship. He was unable to satisfy me sexually, often resulting in us not having sex for months at a time. Here was this HUGE part of our relationship that often left me feeling like I was better off single.

There is no "cheating" in an open relationship and it can often fill in, or spice up a relationship.
cheat [cheet]
–verb (used with object)
1. to defraud; swindle: He cheated her out of her inheritance.
2. to deceive; influence by fraud: He cheated us into believing him a hero.
3. to elude; deprive of something expected: He cheated the law by suicide.
–verb (used without object)
4. to practice fraud or deceit: She cheats without regrets.
5. to violate rules or regulations: He cheats at cards.
6. to take an examination or test in a dishonest way, as by improper access to answers.
–noun
8. a person who acts dishonestly, deceives, or defrauds: He is a cheat and a liar.
9. a fraud; swindle; deception: The game was a cheat.
10. Law . the fraudulent obtaining of another's property by a pretense or trick.

You can not cheat on someone when they know you're doing it, or even joining you.You can't just bend meanings to your will. Otherwise you end up with "gay" which has gone from meaning, "happy" to how these kids use it these days to mean, "stupid".

Now, you find me someone who can satisfy me in the bedroom. Who doesn't make things feel awkward, and leaving me to wonder why I didn't just jack off to some porn and been done with it, then I won't have to have an open relationship, or even consider one. Of course, I wouldn't complain if HE chose to bring in a third or fourth. Makes things interesting.

[Deleted Member]

It's all down to opinion I've given my opinion now I'm gonna unfollow this discussion cause to be completely honest and blunt here you are all doing my fucking skull in!