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Cynthia_Smith
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hi my name is cynthia im new to this and dont know if im gay or bi or just like guys i just wanted to ask how did some of u know u were gay or bi. because im starting to feel like for me to know i should have sex with a girl to find out so hit me up and let me hear your thoughts on this


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well i have known for years, i mean i just always had an attraction for both, how do u feel when u see a girl? think of that


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jessicazylee
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I just kind of knew, since I could feel my attraction to girls and boys. I was lucky, my older brother had been "ally trained", so he talked to me through it.

Attraction to me wasn't "oh she's pretty, I want to look like that", but "oh she's pretty, I would like to hold her hand or hold her" that sort of thing.


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Cynthia_Smith
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thank u it help a little i still dont know what to do should i try and have one time to see if this is what i like or should i not i just dont know


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Cynthia_Smith
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i dont look at girls like oh shes hot but when im in the mood for some i think of girls and guys so could it be just a sex thing or do i like girls and guys this is killing me


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jessicazylee
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it could be... some heterosexual women are aroused by lesbian porn. i dont mean to confuse you, but this is true.

not much help, but sometimes you just have to experience it. those of us who "just knew" are lucky, honestly. and rare.


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Bethany_Grigg
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well, if you ever fantasize, what gender is it usually with? Personally, I'm barely bisexual in that only one man has ever sexually aroused me. All of my fantasies are of girls and I am more attracted to girls than men.

But I believe that you're right when it comes to truly deciferring your emotions: you have to experience it for yourself. How else will you know if you never try?


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jessicazylee
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well i disagree somewhat on trying. I'm one of those who doesn't fool around, only do things with someone I'm in a relationship with. That includes kissing.

I have yet to be in a relationship with a girl, so I haven't even kissed a girl. But I know I am bisexual. But yes some peope just need to experience it.


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I confirmed my sexuality/identity after 30+ years of being hetero...I am definitely bi, although not dating men. I just want to explore my identity with women, and if there's a man with the woman that want to explore threesomes, I'll consider it, but for the most part, the woman is the best part of the bargain. Some people can just do it once or twice, experimenting-- and call it a day with a same sex partner...others they feel more connected to the same sex and once they experience it, that's what they want. I am one of those "late bloomers." The trick is knowing whether you're just bi-curious or truly bisexual. I didn't know until I was with a woman.


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I knew from a very young age. At first I didn't know what to call it or understand it because how can you when you're so young? I still knew there was something different compared to some of my other friends and what society told me was the norm.

Then I had a crush on a girl in primary school and then a boyfriend. Then one day I went and watched a dvd with a mate when I was about 9 or 10. It was Batman and I was dumbstruck during the movie because of Michelle Pfeiffer. I know nine seems a bit young, but I was gaga for her for years after that (her as Catwoman also helped me realise some other things about myself so it was a pretty pivotal point in my life).

After that I had a string of crushes on several female friends, but only started having boyfriends. Then at 14 I put a name to what I was feeling and realised I was in love with my best friend. I wasn't able to be with a woman till I was 19 though.

I'm telling you all of that detail because until I was with a woman, even though I considered myself bisexual, a part of me felt that I had to be with a woman to know for sure. The thing is, if I didn't have people around me asking "how could you know?" when they found out I hadn't been with someone I would not have been questioning that at all. I never questioned my attraction to men and I also never got people questioning that attraction either so I think there is a big connection with that.

You've got to figure out how much of your confusion is being feed by others and you've also got to give yourself time. I may have known for years, given it a name at 14, but it took a long time for me to be absolutely sure and comfortable with it. You're allowed to not be sure and you're allowed to question it, just as long as others aren't influencing you. Decide what you need to do by what feels right for you and if deep down you feel that being with another woman is the only way to make sure then do it.


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Cynthia_Smith
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Wow thanks


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