Deleted Member Posted February 9, 2010 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory Hey I don't know how everyone will feel about this subject, & I am definitely not saying it is for Everyone... I love my sexuality but that's only one part of me. I am definitely attracted to females. My life is pretty much perfect right now. & I plan to continue taking the effort to make it that way. How I grew up was not perfect, but not so bad...However that's a different story for later haha... What I would like to discuss today is Polyamory. & No we are not talking about Big Love here -lol. So, I had a good, sweet boyfriend for 5 &1/2 years (Joe*). We were both really good to each other. I broke up with him because I found something I was missing in another man (my current boyfriend, Nathan*). I failed to realize that both of them had characteristics that I valued. After 9 months I eventually happened to find someone that would fill the void that I had in mine & Nathans* relationship because of the things I had lost with Joe*. His name is Jacob*. I made a decision. Should I go through my life switching from guy to guy because I was only half happy?- no. I told Nathan* about Jacob*. And surprisingly Nathan said that since I had been honest & he felt it was a genuine need, that he would consider having an open relationship of sorts. (Neither of them are gay by the way) I was astonished, I had half expected a breakup. I had never really thought of trying to make two relationships work. How much effort that would take!! But really, when you think of it, sex is just an activity you do with people you love. And jealousy is just a fear of not being loved for who you are by the person you love & that they will leave you for another. Yes, I plan on having safe sex, this is not like some sort of huge orgy going on. This is very personal, but I would appreciate your thoughts, questions, experiences, and any suggestions as the three of us are still in the first stages of this tri relationship.