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I think it is first penetrative sexual act Ian, that could be anal OR oral. With me it was at the same time with the same guy. I don’t think wanking or even mutual wanking counts. ALso I don’t thin it matters you the guy sucks or is sucked, or fucks or is fucked. I think it is loosing virginity either way


Heebie999
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I consider oral and anal virginity two different things. They're extremely different levels of intimacy, although both pretty intense.


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"Breaking him in" means taking a guy's virginity. I don't really like the phrase myself, but a lot of guys use it... like "breaking in a virgin". It always sounds a bit disrespectful to me.

Anyway, by Carl's definition, I lost mine at 15....


Posted

I never said they were the same Todd I just said that doing either could be loosing your virginity


Heebie999
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I definitely wasn't contradicting you Carl, I was just saying that I think of them separately. I lost my oral virginity a couple of months before my anal virginity. For those couple of months, I was no longer an "oral virgin" but I was still an "anal virgin" and I wish I'd lost both types of virginity years earlier.

I think of "breaking him in" as more like getting a guy used to it & helping him get to the point where it's no longer weird and/or painful, to where it's enjoyable.
Sounds to me like for you, Carl, the SECOND guy who fucked you was the one who "broke you in".. and the first guy you never quite got around to enjoying it with.
That's just the way I see these things.
I lost my "fisting virginity" at 23.. although tried it at 18.. just couldn't quite take that much.


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I still can't, Todd... Not sure I want to! Three fingers is enough for me! Hehehe


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Bu saying gays have TWO sorts of virginity only make us more different than straight guys, and we don’t need that.

No way is anybody gonna put s fist in my bum, it is much too small and too tight and I want it to stay tight for whichever guy I decide to settle with


Heebie999
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For some, 3 fingers is enough. For me 2 hands together well past the wrists can still leave me wanting more.
There's also the sensation when someone gets to playing with what's beyond the recto-sigmoidal junction that's just astounding. (past the "second ring" so to speak) I can't even begin to describe how that feels, I just know when someone plays with it all I can do is lie there and enjoy it. It's *SO* intense!
i'm much more active with shallower but wider play.
I'm loud either way!
and.. getting fucked after someone's been playing with your insides a while is amazing, because everything becomes so sensitive, you feel ever tiny little motion he makes inside you. It's bloody magic. =D


Heebie999
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We are different from straight guys, but they can just as readily count oral & vaginal intercourse as 2 different virginities, and they can get into fisting as well, and dildo play etc.., and many do.
There are a LOT of different ways to pleasure another person, and to be pleasured.
Perhaps for now, you're right about your bum. Perhaps someday you'll "settle" with a guy who ends up seeing some porn that makes him want to try fisting you, and you'll let him because you love him, and you might find you absolutely love it, or that you hate it, or that it just isn't for you.
You certainly shouldn't be making any assumptions that last for the rest of your life at your age. I try not to make them at my age! That's just setting limits for yourself that may keep you from growing into everything you can be later on.
Please keep an open mind about everything to do with yourself. What you like from day-to-day and week-to-week can be very different, and from year-to-year can change even more drastically.
Now.. if you end up with a guy who thinks hurting you is either fun or cool.. don't be so open-minded about that, dump his ass & get him locked up!


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I just don’t like the whole idea of it, too painful and could ruin my bum for nice men


Heebie999
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It doesn't ruin your bum, but it's not for everyone. I'd hardly call it "the most disgusting thing ever".. that's a bit much. Eating each other's poo.. that's disgusting to me, but some people think it's beautiful sex play.. while I'm thinking "EWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" They're thinking "OOOOOHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!" and if they enjoy it.. fine, let them. It doesn't bother me any because I'm not there.
and.. fisting is *NOT* painful at all if it's done right. As far as I'm concerned anything that hurts is abuse, not sex, and I want no part of it.
There are people who consider fisting kind of the "ultimate" S&M activity, but that's just HOW they go about it. The activity itself doesn't have to be (and in m opinion shouldn't be) painful.
It can, when engaged in by people who have no clue what they're doing, however, be injurious or even fatal, so if anyone here reading this is curious aobut fisting, don't EVER let someone fist you unless you know they know what they're doing, or you know enough to be able to teach them.
I bet you've got a cute bum, Carl. You use it how you want, and how you're comfortable with, and enjoy it!
Also, don't go trying to "fit" into "straight" society. You're *YOU* and you are part of society, no matter how you end up. You should work to be the best you that you can be, not the best you can be.
What other people think you should be is not relevant. YOU have to be happy being YOU. Trying to be what everyone around you expects you to be, or wants you to be, will keep you from finding ways to be happy... so don't fall into that trap. Embrace the fact that you're "not like straight guys" but don't go becoming a gay stereotype either. You are *YOU*, the only one that will ever exist, and you're special, and fascinating, because of that!


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When you say it doesn't do any damage, Todd, I've personally known guys who have got so far into fisting they've completely destroyed their anal sphincters, and now have to wear diapers because they've lost all bowel control.

Now, maybe there are "safe" ways to do it, and they did it "wrong". I don't know. But the risk is definitely there!


Heebie999
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I don't believe I said there was no risk, I believe I said it can be "injurious and even fatal" which it can.
If someone ended up wearing adult diapers, then yes, he was doing it WAYYYY wrong.
People who end up with colostomies are doing it with partners who aren't responsible and tear them up inside, and that's amazingly sad.

To each his own, and enjoy what you enjoy!


Posted

I was 18 he was in his 30s best decision I ever made I stayed with him for three days straight best three days of my life Needless to say I was well-trained when he let me go

Posted

I was a late starter and only lost my virginity to a good looking older boy when I was 20.

Marty1985
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I was 8, he was 15. Yeah, sounds wrong and like rape. But I actually enjoyed it, he was really gentle and I kept going back to him. His younger sister was my best friend and his mom was my mother's best friend. I spent almost every weekend sleeping over. I would have my own room when I slep at their house. Of course he visited me very often at night. I think this went on till I was 12 and his sister was in puberty. Her mom didn't want me to stay over anymore. We still fucked occasionally, but it wasn't the same.

Karanbir
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I lost it already at the age of 15. 

Rafotoru-San
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I want to lose my virginity

Somebody wants to help me?

Vicsmly
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I was maybe 10 when I molested myself. At first I said no, but I knew I wanted it

LuvBlackCock
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When I was 14, I started fucking other boys.


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