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Please keep this discussion going .. Just before I start to say what I'd want to, I still love to hear from more. Just wanna see If anyone out there think the same as I do. STOP BULLIES have something to do w an artist who is believed was blocked by her current labels, so please If you have anything you wanna discuss please feel free to write what you think. Will love to read from all of you


Ola_Gordon
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i've always believed that bullying only survives in a vacuum and that if when we see it we speak up,show the person been bullyed they are not alone,then the bullys wither and go away

I should've, could've, would've;
Done something about that day,
If only I had known it ended this way.
I am not proud to tell you
How I stood there and watched;
He was so big and scary
Was all that I thought.

I couldn't, wouldn't, shouldn't,
get involved at all.
I say to myself;
It's none of my business;
As I turn and walk away

I hear on the news;
It tells of his woe;
The day of his suicide

They talk about how he locked himself
inside of his room
All to have shot himself to forget all the pain.

Now as I walk through my office
I hear the laughter
But see the fear
In their eyes plainly after
And I know what their thought could easily be
They think to themselves "what if it was me"


Posted

As you know I hate bulling of any form it can start from name calling there are certain words I just don't use and if I hear someone use them I say something to them. Then of course it can get a lot worse than just words bullies can be very scary and in groups so its true we get scared to say anything but if we can report them or stop them before they get out of control we should do what we can.
I also think most of us know what it's like to be bullied so we need to step up o the challenge.


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There's a fellow in my office who turns on the news every day, so I hear a lot of news that I would prefer not to hear. Anyway, yesterday, they were talking about some university coach who was fired for being a rude guy or something of the sort, and somebody was on who quoted him as having called some kids faggots, and the actually bleeped out the "f" word. I never have heard of that one before.


Posted

Bullies could lead to many consequences. Some people got depression, some had to hide themselves from society when It becomes violent. Years ago, this happened in Singapore. This girl (a student) she was being tied up at her home, or It happened in her schoolmate's house, I couldn't recall much but It was shocking especially It happened in here. The girl was being abused in the house, n she was tortured physically. Also sexually assaulted by the teenagers. The youngest accomplice was merely 12 or 14yo? She survived but was disfigured.

Remember once a boy who actually come out as a gay? He was shot dead by his classmate. Racism was part of the reason too.

Suicides are painful for those who are left behind to "see" these happening n yet we cannot do everything to stop.

Some people do not have the courage to step up. Most saw It coming but refused to give a helping hand n then they started to "join in" the fun when someone was bullied.They started by giggles/laughing. Is that right? If only someone else not just the "victim", even an onlooker, should step up n say something. Sometimes being firm n straightforward could be harsh but this is one of the way to prevent someone from being bullied.

I set a saying for myself in the office, not sure If what I might say will help you Jack, or anyone who is reading this. " I'd rather blast my ears w music, n stay away from gossip." My Boss knows me well as I have been honest n straightforward n letting him know what's my aspects. This is a way to let one another understand what kind of person we are working w b/c teamwork adds on motivation. Gossip could lead to misunderstanding n then bullies could occur at the same time.

Please everyone, get your hands together n tell us, tell everyone more. Like how you deal w? How do we prevent? MORE PLEASE!!!

PS : JoJo is an American R&B singer. If you do not know who she is, please do google her. She is currently being blocked by her own record labels. Which literally means she's imprisoned for years. So please spread n help to FREE JOJO ..If you have Facebook you will see more on Facebook. So please? Really needed help from all of you


Tristram_Goncalves
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I moved a lot as a child, new schools all the time. I was big for my age and everyone decided that they could prove something by getting some new kid who was so big. Mama said to be good and not to fight, I fought sometimes. Gramma said to clean the clock of the first person who looked cross-eyed at me. Gramma was right, eventually I learnt to do with my mouth what I could do with my fists by cussing out anyone who came at me by giving them a reading on their family tree they'd never forget.

I guess that's mhy my friends who finished hogh school voted me "Most likely to do time for a felony crime" but the yearbook staff refused to print it cuz they thought that it sent out the wrong message.


Posted

Well when i was young was bullied at school and it was ignored by staff,bullied where i stayed so i made friends with asian people in woodside in glasgow even went with them to the mosque, whearas amongst the white anglo saxon protestents i was a freak.
Later after and older left school got my freedom money helped, and avoided situations where i could be cornered and attacked, learned judo etc, but still avoided making friends for they betrayed me always.
most amount of friends ever had in life, here on gays. com, can count on one hand those i see in real life and there in the lgbt group i go to, the only other one is tommy and i see him at leeds Pride only.


Posted

Tell us Ailean what do you like about gays.com how has it made a difference in your life?
What does gays.com have that other sites don't have?


Posted

Many times these are most of the things that happen in life that really upset me/many others. How many times do people exactly wanna learn from lessons to lessons?

There are also gruesome documentaries on how white people terrorized the blacks. (PS:I m so sorry that I do not have any intention here to offend anyone. So I m saying sorry in advance b/c these are just some of the fact most fake to see It/hear It)

Why? What is wrong w people that make such hmm what you call that, Is It necessary? Does the color of the skin define your humanity?

Is It b/c lack of education? Idk, n that is why I m posting this article here to wanna know more from readers. And I love to know b/c I do not understand that in life we have so many valuable n precious people/friends/relatives/family... How can some people just start to throw labels on others?

I remember there's once we were chatting. Then someone mentioned about labels.. So I was pretty much upset n I said v directly "Hey, you know what? If you think you're looking for labels, you are at the wrong place. We are not price tags, look up for labels on supermarkets" It was out of anger b/c I do not tolerate people giving labels or being racist. Anyhow a friend of mine post that on her FB status though b/c she thinks I do have a point. I don't even know what was "butch" back then (lol) When I heard, "Ella look.. that girl over there is a butch" I asked my friend what that means (lol) She explained to me, n I didn't quite like that word though (haha)

To me, I do not care who is what, what color of her skin is. As long as she is a person, n If she wanna be a friend, why wouldn't we be friends? Why do we have to put on labels whether who/what they are? it's so getting out of hands (lol) Don't you think?

PS: All these need so much time to differentiate. But people waste time on creating such a hassle in life giving labels, being racist, n then some aloow bullies to do whatever they want. Is that the life people wanna see in coming generations?


Posted

To Carol :

Can I join in your survey :b ? xx


Posted

Of course everyone can
I want to know lol


Posted

Well carol your group owner and you have asked the most dangerous question in the world of me.
So i will try to answer it,but my comments have no insults meant to anyone or hurt, if you think that you dont know or understand me and never will.
Try reading the poem i posted on sunday " The Hunter" its in the poetry group. So carol,a pardon & amnesty in advance would be nice.


Posted

Where does one start, at the beginning i suppose, that would be in mike wolfe's group gay guys,so let us start with mike ,most get a welcome from the group owner, i got the comment your dangerous in my first discussion, but forby that he is ok, but i was always wary on here, it was jony, and taking part in his discussions that got me to open up, now that is a nice friend, even on here he has been harassed at times by older guys, well we wont go into details, sometimes my best friends are
y best enemies, that is life, talked more with mike on facebook than here at times when i left here, had to, no choice, and the problem is getting worse, that is why at times i am not available, my weight has stabilised at 11stone, i look anorexic,thin, 32waist,or size 12. Both are on the united lgbt earth group on facebook,but like them i prefer contact via this site.


Posted

Where next, tommy, probably the best friend i have from here, did you know he is so tall, a really nice guy.
But there are others like John williams, dean hargreaves, carl david stottar, richard pasquale, and lots of others.
There is a reason why i have not gone and contacted them, so i suppose i have to state it now, and i have already said this to carol months ago, some on here are hoping i make a mistake and be banned from here.
In any family there will be fights arguments and disagreements,that should not lead to others playing the "copy, cut & paste " its a negative culture on here, not all have that ability, also its a bad thing, then running to management and shouting rape!
Some of you on here remember paul quigley fiasco,i know i do, never forget that weekend having to sit and watch him chat up young girls, and upset gay guys,and when i posted on one of my groups that he needed to talk to the members on here, june asia jumps in telling me to shut up, that one is both fake and a stalker and have twproof in a safe place, got peace eventually by sending a statement to some here and on facebook of what i would do unless stalking of me and my family stopped, well its now ended so that is fine.
The cut copy &paste. Culture is the only bad thing about here, and over indulgence by management in interfering to often when not needed.
Even recently i was accused unfairly of insulting the german nation, considering that i hold 2passports one for germany and the other for the uk, i find it laughable,considering that my fellow scots think i am a nazi,i am not that but the correct spelling is nsdap, i am a spartikist, google red rosa, so many on here dont understand much there not my generation, and hopefully you never have to live with the conditions we had to put up with.
What changed our world, not hate, not persecution, not brutality, not police prosecution for sex with consenting partner, it was love, not even hiv stopped us from same sex love and relationships, we are what we are, so a little understanding would help,on facebook blocking happens regular even for just making friends, here you get blocked for what others think, next time your in salou tara go to fawlty towers pub,its on the main rd heading south along the coast.


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Well now the best bit, what a gem i found when i contacted you to invite you to the rainbow lounge, why was i doing that, well me & tonia worked out that group and she forwarded it to tara for approval, anything i am involved with i feel responsible cor,same with scnd, and peace march scotland, you did not know that, its the same with united lgbt earth group, i made contact with russia and china,had already asked richard pasquale from here to admin for south america,not long ago i let go my friends in that group all 600 of them, at one point on here had 300, so know how communiverse works, but amongst them there were a few i missed, Jamie summers,richard ivers and ella, even tried to contact charlene Elizabeth on here, no luck, but did contact her on facebook, she is nice, as is jaunis, and lots of others to many to mention.
Dont think we will see susan O'Brien though, she is no longer on fb,and lgbt mafia is now run by Phoebe Winehouse, a friend of mine.
I have other friends there my pagan / witchcraft friends, its my faith group so no adverse or hate comments please.
but the difference between here & facebook, here we talk, its not a like site, and the poetry & writing group is a bonus, at least there i get to share something that i have a passion for poetry, music is the other.
Even in mike's group, or the girl or trans groups avoided the sex rooms that to me is boring, flirting can be fun, but not as much as talking with carol or debbie or tonia,or even sharing art with debbie.
As for Jamie she is special, who knows if it is our destiny we will meet, that i would like, maybe some day i will go to vancouver, after all i do have family there, and Oregon and California is only a short distance south, come back via texas,say hi to alfawolf, but Jamie comes first, if its written in the stars then blessed be.
Let us hope i am not banned now carol.


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I only run some groups on here and have no real power on who get banned or otherwise but I love the fact we can say what we feel here. I no longer go into the chat rooms because its a place for the young people and I don't feel welcomed there. I also love posting poems and other random things I may feel and want to hear what others think of it. When I joined I was just going to sit here and read what people had to say I didn't dream I would run a group.i started with help some some lovely people I met right here just a simple question "how do I?"
Answers came from everywhere "this is how to set up a group and this is how to get people to join."
My first little group the 'Get HAPPY' group has over 500 people now.
I have to thank all those who posted in my groups and answered with their comments and thoughts. I have learnt so much in the short time I've been here.
So to anyone who reads this I say a Big THANK YOU and please write your thoughts and let us know how you feel.


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Well either some are not here, or are staying out of discussion, fine by me, it used to be busy on here, and after i left after a few weeks talked to tommy on facebook,by then i was past the worst,.
Why this site important, its worth saving, not like gaydar,or laurasplayground, its unique even if at times it drives one crazy, the people are nice, its only a few that tries to spoil it by acting like trolls, power hungry, they think thats important its not.
whilst i was alone in exile missed some on here, but not the hassles, but when you see group owners from here playing games most times either it is quiet or something happened, eventually i heard, and why did i come back, i had promised to some i would let them know about same -sex.marriage in scotland and how it progressed,its as simple as that.
I have asked you to read the poem the "hunter " in a way it could refer to here, but its really about preventing the end, and asking a question why bother!
At the end of the day i come here to talk with some friends or share some poetry, even comment sometimes, not for hassle, no longer at work am i the joke, those that threatened to cut me, gone, they got sacked, and most are now careful dont even use tranny word.
As for management, well calvin & eric zheng are both good guys, never done me harmso what if i dont get on with some that is life. just move on, have fun, last night there were lots of parties, celebration of the news, most of the young or youth wont understand the iron lady died, lots of poor people socialist communists,and lgbt people took part in toasting that event, that is normal not hate, in the 80's the call was maggie. out! out! .
Some say and know i have a strange sense of humor, remember the brittas clip ella,well on.facebook in the united lgbt earth group added quite a few but also amongst the equality network and other lgbt groups the europol and vatican are also in that group, debbie & richard remember the pic i sent you from my catholic friends at the vatican,that to me was fun none realised.
blessed be.


Posted

Well sometimes its easier this way

I believe i can be of perfect harmony with the universe
To live as i wish to live
To love as i wish to love
To laugh and dance to the harmonies of life.

Though many may not believe as i believe
Though many will try to sting me with words and actions
I will believe in me and my balance of harmony
To let others believe as they believe
Showing them that i can be.

What the goddess tended me to be
One with perfect light and love of harmony
So mote it be. Blessed be.

Think that sums up what most on here would like to be, its difficult to be, but in life there is no easy road.


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Carol & debbie think you will like this :

Dear child. Remember.
I am the love in the light
I am the light in the smile
I am the light in the dark
I am the love in a hug
I am the song in the bird
I am the music in the wind
I am the mist in the rain
I am the rumbles in the earth
I am the warm in the flame
I am the hand that holds yours
I am your guidance, your strength
From me comes the love and light of all
As it is given to you, so should it be given to others
Walking a path of peace and harmony
Your mother goddess
Blessed be.

Now you all have something that can give you inner strength to believe in faith, hope. & charity, blessed be.


Posted

That's a lovely thought thank you Ailean


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Not many comments either from ella or anyone i named, either they dont want to. or cannot because there not on this site anymore, that would be a pity.
So where does the future lie in gays.com,the last change to chat was an improvement, but did away with 1-1 chat unless your in chat room, also some were blocked, it happened to me, could not chat with friends, very upsetting, not long afterwards i left, but the chaos caused damaged this site, susan and others were upset, even when i asked the others to give management time to sort it.
Problems of. Group owners feeling they were being pressured to leave. Yes that was a bad time.
Now the site seems quiet, unduly so, not much happening in chat rooms, not more than 12 on any night, be nice if i was wrong.
I tried with the dating group, it was nice that Jamie took it over, she has said i can have it back if i want, better the now it stays in jamie's hands.
Carol and others came back here because this is a place where conversation is more important than likes, fb and other sites are good for that, myself, tommy & others are always posting the link for here, we dont do that for sites we dislike.
Numbers are important to sites on the internet, i have my own opinion on that, but this site needs more activity, so how is that to be accomplished, well getting rid of groups, just means that those members that are here the now and use them go elsewhere, so you need to keep them.
Chat rooms you will need, so that has to stay.
Most in the lgbt world are after someone to love or have fun that night, there are many such sites already.
So what to do!
Well being able to share between here & facebook would help,at the moment only links can be done, thats not the same as pictures with posts, even if you want to share on facebook with gays.com page, you cannot, you have to inbox or email calvin@gays.com, that to me is part of the problem, last year i posted on my page pictures of 7 pride events in the uk,sent some to mike & tommy for friends on here to see, as it is difficult sharing anything on here.
What is the answer! Its a dilemma, no good saying last person to leave switch lights out,so many lgbt groups and equality network groups, this site should have them here, all should be able to interact with each other.
I remember a gay friend in the gay bar in glasgow the underground, he said to. Who cares! That is also part of the problem.
I know i do that is my problem, otherwise i would not try or be online or feel obliged to try and help or support lgbt rights or equality.
Equality, i support that, for my kids and others so they dont have to live or experience the bigotry or hate i had, or when young feeling death was better than life.
Be nice if you discussed this it is your future, mine was written on the wind long ago.
Blessed be.

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I actually really enjoy this site. I do not like facebook and only returned there because of my novel, but this is the place where I feel free to be myself, and I have met some great people here though cyber relationships are just not the same as living relationships. Wherever one goes, there are ups and downs, pros and cons, but I am glad I returned to this site.


Posted

Nice to see someone else comment, it is a good site, and facebook is different, but for this site to survive it needs the lgbt community to come here. At the moment there on fb, i have my own reasons for preferring this site, and would add some of my friends on here, but virtual it is changable situation every month,here today gone tomorrow, so afraid to add them, or even ask, or even sometimes comment in case someone think i am posting hate, to me some on here are bigotted opinionatef and power hungry, they ruin it for those that care.
you want to see passion its on fb in united lgbt earth group about thatcher,your lucky she was never in power in usa,otherwise you would find out how bad a dictatorship is.


Ola_Gordon
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now that annoys me, margaret thatcher won 3 elections ,my great grandather escaped stalins russia with my grandfather, he was a dictator, who on a whim imprised,exciled or murdered with impunity,my grandfather still had nighmares into his eightys,so please you may disagree with her politics,hate the way she acted but don't call her a dictator
sorry i don't mean to be critical its just the power of a word shouldn't be weakened,if you start calling blair.thatcher or bush dictators it effects its power when used abut people like stalin,hitler or mugabe


Posted

Ola,i agree with you hitler,stalin, were dictators,and did terrible things but at least they were dictators in there own country, mugabe is nothing compared to them.
Maggie thatcher won 3elections in ENGLAND NOT SCOTLAND, SCOTLAND IS PART OF THE UNION AND FOR 400 YRS FOUGHT ENGLISH RULE, SCOTLAND IS AN INDEPENDENT KINGDOM, following your argument Eire is part of uk,as is usa and all commonwealth countries.
The westminster parliament is spending £10 million on her funeral, others are being cutback on unemployment benefits, so you agree with that.
sooner this is over the better, and ding dong the wicked witch is dead, is now no1,that is in reference to her, a slur on witches and wizard of oz,she was just evil.



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