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My whole life I have grown up in a christian home. I never knew who I was because I was surrounded by lies. They tried to "protect" me from this lifestyle but it only made things worse. No one wanted to see me for who I really was because they didn't want to accept that maybe they have a lesbian child on their hands. They blamed it on other people, other things, on anything but the fact that maybe that's who I am. To this day I remain silent on that part of my life because I am afraid of how they will react. It was terrible when they only assumed, I can't imagine how it will be when they hear the truth. I am out to most of my friends if not all and to everyone I meet here at school. It isn't the same though because when I go home I am back to living my second life. I joined this site hoping to find more people I can relate too and a possible relationship.


Indiana_Dolly
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Hey Kaitlynn,

I've been through that feeling and phase in life. I have a family that's very much orthodox when it comes to such a topic. But then there was a day where, I finally found myself in deep depressed and stress because I couldn't handle the double living standards and the fact of always lieing about my sexuality. Today; majority of my family knows and they are okay with it. And, the rest would just want to hear my come out and tell them. Like most people would say; 'It sounds better from the horse's mouth.'

Other than that, just give them time and let them accept you as you are. Patience here would pay it off for sure. No rush. No pressure. Eventually; they'll accept you for who you are.

-Indie-


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Many peole are under the impression that religion and homosexuality do not mix. I am an Orthodox Jew, and I had to grapple with that issue myself. It is not true, though. Religion in its pure form does not deny the homosexual but rather embraces him/her in the same way that religion embraces anybody else. It is people's interpretation of religion that is misdirected. That is where the problem lies.


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if only everyone believed that


Indiana_Dolly
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It's not what people believe that should discourage you, but what you make them believe that should help you tell them the truth; and have them accept it, at the same time. So, I won't see why it should be a problem of Religion pulling you back to some point, but on it could also be a minor influencial factor on the other hand.

-Indie-


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kaitlynn, on the question of finding someone to date have a look at members in LGBT dating group group owner jamie summers, it has those who were looking for a relationship in it it may help you, the only other way i know of is go out and socialise in clubs and pubs, do it old fashioned way.
As for religion & lgbt, there are 2 discussions, one old school normality is a man & woman in a complimentary relationship with kids. Homosexuality is regarded as a sin.
the other is a man and a woman, a man and a man, a woman and a woman, in a relationship, where romance and love is important, and homosexuality is not a sin, in the 21st century, i would go for this one, the other is ancient and bigotted.
love is what is important.
hi jack, nice pic , better than the old one, huni


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Thanks, Ailean, for the vote of confidence.


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your welcome jack.
I have been watching the same-sex committee on the legislation in england and wales, and what came across from the churches is that marriage is between a man and a woman, also with the redefination of marriage to include same sex, its in education in schools that most seem to be worried , and also about people that have a problem in marrying same-sex partners.
What also came across was that civil partnerships is a 2nd class system and if equal marriage comes about over a period of time they will cease to be used, and those already in a civil partnership will have there status changed to a married status.
On the question of transgenders/transsexuals having to divorce before seeking a change of identity certificate, that is going to be changed that couples will no longer have to divorce, then at a later stage re-marry.
So to intents and purposes it looks as if the uk, with the exception of n.ireland, is bringing in same-sex marriage legislatiion, and the jewish faith was on the other night saying they would opt it to perform same-sex marriage, along with the quakers and other establishments.


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The intolerance within the religious Jewish community toward this issue is very dangerous. I keep thinking I need to speak up to help begin awareness and start the move toward education and acceptance in order to help people in trouble, but it is a herculean task. Yesterday, though, I was forced to bring up the topic on facebook. It wasn't such a huge step because I only have a handful of friends there and most know about me anyway, but something needs to be said and somebody needs to say it. If nobody else will, then...


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in the jewish faith, just like the anglican church and other faith groups, there is a split, where some support equality, and the fundelmentalists & traditionlists wish to keep the status quo.
But despite this some in goverment want equality, and believe that society has to develop as we are now linked in worldwide civilization which is interlinked, gone are the days of isolation, the internet has proved that.
Jack, quite a few from here along with myself and others are in the "United LGBT Earth" group on facebook, come and join us you and anyone else would be welcome, me i use several sites, facebook is ok for likes, discussion is best done in this site, and most of my friends are on here, even some that wont or dont trust facebook.


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I'm on facebook simply to promote my novel. I don't trust it myself really, but I'd love to engage in dialogue with you and others here. I do love this site. It is really a better place to connect with people, and I'd love to share thoughts and ideas. Thanks.


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starlin's child, yes saw your post jack, and shared it , all the best with the book, and also shared it in the United LGBT Earth group, so hope it helps


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Wow, thanks a lot, Ailean.


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no problem, would do it for anyone in our community, and someone i knew from the past on here. Think most here would do the same, we have a group of talented writers and musicians on this site.



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