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Hey peeps, as usual i have a lot on my mind and the latest topic that popped in my head was what do we gain out of being on gays.com? I want to see if you guys get what i mean with that question, wont write ill just wait to see what u have to say.... What do u get out of all this??


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To be honest not a lot.


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Sun., Sept 2nd, 12, 21:55 Hrs. M.D.T. Hi Group, What Do I Get? A Chance to Meet Others, Its FREE - No Charge Like a LOT of Other Sites That Charge $30 Plus/Month etc. A Chance to Comment of Various Site/Groups You Can't Do That Openly on Facebook. If It was "My Space" You Could - NO Bull on That One. Not Sure What Else, so I'll Comment Later, Enjoy, Operator.


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Ian_Dunbar
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Ur braver than I am. Oak stil
In the closi. Having abgf must be nice


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JJ_NN
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??????????i really don't know, but at the other hand read what Dean Hardgreaves has written.................................


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Great question Joey...and I'm loving the answers!
@Dean, so happy for you!!!!
Wanna hear what you all have to say about what you get from Gays.com!
Tara | Community Manager


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i got myself someone special :-)


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Mon., Sept 3rd, 12, 07:55 Hrs. M.D.T,
Hi Group,
What Do You Get Out of Gays.com
Bottom Line - In Any Group/Site - What
You Put in = What You Get Out of It. You
Don't Get Much Out of a Site if Your Not
Putting Much Into That Site/Group.
This is an Interactive Group so Its Open
Everyone to Share, NOT Just a Few,
Opinions/Comments Positive or Not
Make a Site Worth the While.
Its NOT Just for Hook Ups or One Night
Stands and What Have You
I'm in It for Fun etc and to Associate
With Others.
Enjoy,
Operator.


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Ok got some comments but so far havent got what i expected, i do like what Dean wrote but wont comment on that just yet. I hope ppl dont think wrong about this topic, i love this site too. I just want to see what it does for other ppl, i already know what it does for me...


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Yeremiah_Hardt
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To share stuff and to feel part of a community


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John_Grant_61544
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was curious so joined. variety of interest groups and have joined 2. didn't join looking for sex. since i joined i have seen a viariety of people and discussions with a central gay theme. some i found quite interesting while others are for me of no interest. i was thinking i might make friends but these days don't jump into thinking a friendship will be lifelong love or relationship but remain open-minded. thnx to you all.


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Tommy_Storey
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To be my self.with Like minded Peaple ... LOL xxxxx


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David_Cloud
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I met a guy who has become a very good friend. I have met others too who i like to keep up with and exchange friendly messages with. I like to participate in discussions on challenging topics. I enjoy the generally supportive atmosphere and the considerable range of ages, nationalities and views of those that I come across on gays.com....and that the site provides for both males and females and all sexualities.


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Carl-david_Stottor
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Hi guyz,
Have'nt been online for a while, but was interested in this topic of conversation....I guess what we get out of gays.com, is both personal and individual for all of us....for myself, being housbound due to disability and terminal illness, I no longer get out to socialise, nor be part of the gay scene anymore, so was begining to feel isolated, not that I had many friends on the scene, but it was nice to socialise and get out all the same....it was only just over a year ago, that I got myself a laptop and got on the net, initially quite shocked to see myself plastered all over the place, for a past that remain's always, in public interest.....which was pretty intimidating at first, I was worried about other members finding out that, but I have met some nice guyz on here, some good friends I hope....even met a couple, which has been brilliant.....joining gays.com has broken the isolation and given me a new lease on life, allowed me to self express, talk and share, which as a species, we all need that human contact, especially with our own kind, for no man is an island....it is not healthy to stay alone, in isolation, unable to show expression or feeling......I deal with my life exceptionally well, it's just nice to be able to communicate once in a while, I do not have friends around me 24/7, nor do I have a partner, I'm fine alone, but it is important never to feel lonely, which I was becoming after 9 year's of self imposed isolation, after the death of a much loved partner at first, then secondly failing health, thank's to gays.com I can choose no longer to be lonely and feel less isolated, just press a button and feel alive, part of the community, be part of the living....that's what I get, from being on here!


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I get the chance to help others and be helped by others, I get the chance to share my advice and experiences with others and vice versa.
I'm not sure if I'm any good at helping and giving advice but oh well at least I tried.
You see sites like this they aren't there just for 'getting' something they are mainly there for 'giving' something like advice, wisdom, friends etc...
You see this site has probably opened peoples eyes to different cultures and languages, as everyone may know I am Welsh and also speak Welsh and I'm constantly trying to open peoples eyes that Wales is a different country than England - I don't think I'm getting anywhere but I'm not giving up :P
The site also has a lot of people to chat to and have a laugh with, it's not just about advice and stuff it's also about socialising with other people, it could be a 14 year old who is having trouble coming to terms with his sexuality and will come here and we could change his life for him and help him out - I know that's what we managed to do for Dean, I remember when I first spoke to Dean he was feeling really depressed and really scared and now look at him, really happy and loving his life - and Dean, I'm really happy for you! - so look at what this site IS doing for people then ask what's it doing because from where I can see the people who said they don't get anything is obviously looking at it from a selfish prospective!


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I see alot of things and got to say it how it is... WAKE UP people!!! A site doesnt make u happy, it doesnt get you a guy worth the while, you do that on YOUR own, i see alot of hypocritical comments and at the end of the day this site helps us pass some time and see peoples profiles with pics, if u like u send a message or send a wink and maybe chat alil but thats it IT! Regarding Deans comment, this site didnt solve his problems, HE did, just like we all do when we need to. Im sure alot of ppl think im an ass for saying this but its ok it dont bother me still love all you peeps and love this site but just remember.... Its just a site.


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Keith_Imeson
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it,s a chance to say how you really fill no lying to yourself and to hear from other like minded people who enjoy being gay


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Take a pill dean, maybe u should learn how to read.. You act like you very smart but u didnt read what i wrote. Open your eyes before you open your month kid. I said there were alot of hypocritical comments, if you get offended by that comment thats your problem because as i CAN read i never saw me writing DEANS comment is hypocritical. Nobody is forced to write here and its pretty stupid you thinking i get a laugh out of this. I say whats on my mind, things ppl think about but dont say and if that makes you think gay people totally suck thats very very sad, u must be a very weak person to let one topic and a few comments get you to that spot but that seems like a problem you need to deal with... Its also funny how you say im jealous... OF WHAT??? Please explain that to me kid since your so smart please do.... Out of the topic i really you dont think understood the question...


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David_Cloud
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Joey, what you have said in both your comments (1 above and 4 above) makes me feel very angry.

The impression that these statements give to me is that you have been dismissive of what guys have contributed in good faith to the discussion that you started. The statements in particular by Dean, Richard D and Carl-David have been incredibly honest, sincere and demonstrate great faith in and warmth for humanity. I have a huge amount of respect for each of these guys and am proud to call them friends who I have met on this site. By implication it appears that you trivialise what they have contribiuted from their souls. In the comments you have made I have not seen a 'soul'.

If you had said in your comment that FOR YOU the gays.com site offers no more than a set of pics and profiles which merely help you 'pass the time' then this would have stood as your opinion. As it was you said that we should all WAKE UP and then you put across a view of the site as if this was the absolute truth and that we had all got it wrong!

Let me assure you that we have NOT got it all wrong. There is a community of friendship and support within a significant proportion of the guys on this site for those who want to enjoy each other's friendship and share our concerns and seek mutual support. Gays.com is a site where this community EXISTS, and myself and others value it enormously.

Please DO NOT make out that we should all see this site the way that you do because that is what it sounded like from the statement you made 4 above this one. I for one DO NOT see it the same way as you do.


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Isn't it crazy how my 'passing the time' turned into giving advice and actually helping people lol
I agree with what Dean said, Joey, about you being jealous, jealous of what? Maybe jealous of the fact that you don't get anything like what we get from this site, you just see it as passing the times, others see it as a chance to meet new people from all walks of life, giving advice, HELPING others - help with sexuality or life problems - you maybe shocked but a few words from someone spoken or typed CAN help a lot and you may get advice on here that you wouldn't get in person because that person on here may live in America and myself live in Wales, so this site is not my 'pass time' it is where I go to look on discussions and see if there's anything I can help with.
Maybe it's something I'm interested in, it's good to be enabled to speak to people who without sites like this we may not be able to speak to.
So, Joey, maybe it is not US who need to WAKE UP, maybe it's YOU who needs to!


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Also another thing!
Never call someone a 'kid' I hate that word, when someone calls me a 'kid' I go nuts, I see it as a major insult, so don't use that word to try and insult someone!

Also, on your profile it says that this topic is a joke you said and I quote 'fuckem if they can't take a joke' and you said that this wasn't a joke, all I have to say is MAKE UP YOUR MIND!!!!!! Was this a joke on NOT!? Dear God!


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JJ_NN
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joey nunya ,

you reall are a jerk talking this way.

you better shut up and let us in peace.


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Carl-david_Stottor
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OMG what an angry topic of conversation this is turning out to be, more an aggressive arguement, do we really need to squabble among'st oureselve's, fight each other...we are all entitled to our opinions, good or bad, some opinions, we should keep to ourselves though, because opinions although good as are intention's, can often cause hurt, I really hate seeing gay people attack each other, it sadden's me deeply.....I grew up in a time when we were not accepted, had no right's, had no voice or freedom, when gay people looked after one another, when we were persecuted....thing's have changed greatly now, we just attack and persecute each other now, which is not what I fought for a few decades ago, to see, I think to have a site like gays.com is amazing, so let's all play nicely, who are we to judge and critisize each other, what happened to toleration, consideration, respect for one another, is there not enough ignorance and bigotry in this world, I think all our views and opinions are important, especially when it comes to the collective gay spirit, I hope I never offend anyone with my opinion, but if ever I do I am sorry, that was never my intention, I'm all for debate, but not when it turn's into personal hissy-fit's, I'd rather contact the person who upset me and perhaps try to explain privately, rather than air dirty laundry, with scathing remark's, there's no need for it.....!
This debate was about what we felt we got out of being on gay's.com, or what we did'nt, for those that do, then great, for those that don't is sad, it's really that simple, sometimes we have to agree to disagree, if I disagree, I simply do not bother to argue, it just causes upset...


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JJ you dont like what i say it dont bother me one bit, and i dought you or anybody on this site or in person will shut me up so dont tell me to shut up and leave you alone, if it offends you dont read it simple as that. Richard you dont like to be called a kid???? What the fuck are u ?? A man??? Nop ur a kid, if it pisses you off well there is nothing i can do about it just keep calling you a kid to piss you off even more.... As for Dean... Never said this was a joke and yes i did write " fuckem if they take a joke" but it doesnt mean it was a joke, look it up and ull see what i mean, also u r right about what is written on my profile but read alil more so you see the whole picture... I know i offended some ppl and im not gonna apologize for it cause well im not that type... You say im not making it any easier for young gay ppl thats bullsh!t but whatever say what u wanna say but at the end of the day nobody could answer the question because nobody knows how to read between the lines. I wonder if they will kick me off this site?? I wouldnt care, just hope ppl start opening their eyes and closing their mouths.


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Hope you all have a great day peeps Salud!!!

Dont take it personal Dean and dont let some words change u its only words dont be weak.

Hey kid!!!!! (this is for Richard)


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