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wow i have not written a discussion in forever...but don't think i forget about the rest of you who don't chat...anywho...so a couple days ago we had this jerk in the gay guys chat room...and i can't remember his exact words...but mainly what he was saying is that online or "virtual" friendships as he called them...are not real and pretty much pointless...and well i've been on edge recently...and once in a while it's like i'm waiting for someone to challenge me...so anywho...we go at it on chat...and it's frustrating how instead of speaking the "truth"...people sound really stupid...i mean i've been here for more than a year...i've pretty much been an open book to many of you...i've written my thoughts, experiences, and feelings on here...that i'm certain that many of you really know me on here...i may not know much about you in a personal level...but i still consider you guys my friends...so the way i felt is...who the hell is he to tell me that my friendship with you guys isn't real???...you guys have shown me support and love that i've needed...and i really appreciate it...one person said that would only last until i met an old person who turns out to be a pedophile...and well none of you have given me the pedophile vibe honestly...so if i were to see you walking around Pasadena...i would give you the time of day...oh now i remember what sparked the argument...every once in a blue moon...on the chat people wanna see below the waist...and ask for it in public???...and what i said is that i hate that people treat this site as if it was a PORN site and not a social network that it is...this is pretty much a facebook for a LGBT community...and when i said that he pretty much laughed and said "a facebook for the LGBT community?...come on...who are you kidding?"...i'm like WTF???...i asked why was he here and he said C2C...which for those who don't know...cam to cam...so pretty much he's one of the few who treat this site as a porn site...and it's kinda sad that when it comes LGBT community all people can think about is sex...as if our lives revolve around the bedroom...i mean it's like some believe in love...but most people even within our community think we're just horny people who wanna hump anything that moves...and it's like are you serious???...if that's how you are...don't assume we're all like that...cuz i'm no saint but i'm not looking for anything to hump or to fall in love with anyone at the moment...but i mean yea...honestly some people get to me...and others just misuse their freedom of expression to just say the most stupid things that really don't make sense and it's even a wonder that someone can come up with something like this to begin with...but well of course i ended up letting go...and like always i'd like to see what you guys think...and what are your feelings about what i've said...also if you wanna add anything new...feel free to do so...i probably wrote an essay on this...so whoever finishes reading this deserves a Gold Star...lol...


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Wow... I rarely read or pay attention to most topics now but this moved me to action.

Well I can't say for those tools but some people I've met on here have become true friends, one to such an extent that I'd give up a kidney or bit of liver to help. Then again I suppose you reap what you sow, so those guys must know nothing of friendship due to their trolling.

"Light travels faster than sound, that's why some people appear bright until they start talking."

Addendum: where's my gold star?


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lol...here it is...*gives Charlotte a big GOLD STAR*


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Very well put jony! I am so glad that there are way more of us on this site that think and feel along these lines than not! I have made family here. Folks that have my back or don't heitate to inform me when i've been mislead by another. Those are the kind of exceptional people I want for friends and that's what I have here!

Do I get a silver star for second place? Lol


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Jony... the guy you were talking to obviously is one dimensional and doesn't realize the idea of this site. It is first and foremost a social networking site... like you said, the facebook for lgbt. If people talk about sex, that's fine. I do. Sometimes I post about needing to get laid or whatever. But it's also good for (and is what most seem to use it for) finding friends and having people you can connect with and identify with to talk about all aspects of life. I think online relationships are very real. Relationships are not all about the physical (unless it's intentionally that way). Relationships are mental, emotional, and physical. The only thing you can't get out of an online relationship is the physical, the touch of your partner. Otherwise, I agree that it is very real and can have great impact. My first gf and first true love (and only so far... even tho it ended) was an online relationship that started as a conversation on this site. I am a very physical and sexual person, but I have had a couple of ldrs that started online (and never made it to the physical... well feeling their touch anyway and, while I've decided not to do it again, it was very real. Possibly and quite probably more real than many non-ldr I've seen others in. So, in short XD... I think you're right. Also, I get a gold star too! )) p.s. Charlotte... I LOVE the witticism you threw in there. In fact I may steal it and post it elsewhere in your honor! xx


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there are no silver stars...everyone gets a GOLD STAR...*gives Debbie and Heather their GOLD STARS*...

i agree they are very real...some people experience one misfortune and just label it like that for the rest of their lives...


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David_Kirkpatrick_61460
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I have met some very nice and good people at this site, and online friendships may or may not be different from friendships formed in the 'real' world, whatever the hell that is, but just because a friendship is formed in the traditional way does NOT make it more permanent than one formed online or make an online friendship any less real. For one example, I had a friend for a long time, about 25 years--and we formed the friendship in the usual way-- we went through A LOT together, but the friendship ended because, in the end, he could not accept that I was Gay. So how much more real IS a traditional friendship than an online one. AND, online friendships can lead to traditional ones. I met my former partner online, and we were very happy together for a time. He changed my life forever--made me a much better man, and I don't regret meeting him, knowing him, marrying him. I would do it all over again. Lots of good folks out there to meet online! So let's hear it for online friendships!


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that's right David...and here's a Gold Star for you...*gives David a GOLD STAR*


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Brian_A_Case
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Wow that twice in one week i've heard or read about someone saying online friendships are all fake, "BULL$HIT" they're only fake if you make them fake. i'm not new to social networking in fact i'm one of the origanal members of Ebays blog pages when they had them many years ago and i met HUNDREDS of friends on there that i still talk/text to on a weekly or sometimes daily basis. i belong to another site and two nights ago i made a comment on a story i read a few minutes later i had a little red 1 on my mail envolope so i clicked it and it was a reply from the man who wrote the story. he and i texted backed and fourth for 3.5 hrs (never once talking about sex btw) to each other and have so much in common with each other. we are both gay (loud and proud), we are both married to woman with two daughters each that are vary close in age to each other. i can go on and on telling you things about him and his family because thats what happends in fake online friendships "NOT". I can (but won't) tell you these things because we did build a friendship in just a few hours. he finally found someone (me too) that was like him, has gone through the same crap with his daughters and could relate with each other what it's like to be married to a woman and gay at the same time (don't try this at home i'm a trained professional) in fact tonight when i came home i had a message from him asking if he could vent on me because he had a crappy day at work and needed someone to talk to, yep thats what "FAKE"online friends are for. to be there for you when you need a friend the most.


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i agree with you Brian...i've always vented out my feelings and everything here and i've received love and support from members of the site...and well if we get to meet in person great...if not that's ok too...what matters is our friendship...oh and get this guys i forgot to tell you this part...he said the reason they're not real is because sooner or later i'm gonna stop talking to them...i was like what the hell are you now a psychic???...he was like "i'll give a year then"...i'm like this dude is so ugh!!!...if he only knew that i've been friends with some of you guys over a year...except my lesbian friends...those are new...thanks to our new Rainbow Lounge...and well anywho...but this comes to show you that sometimes people don't know that they're talking about and they just wanna push your buttons...and well Brian you also deserve a Gold Star for reading my whole ventilation...*gives Brian a GOLD STAR*


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Randy_Hicks
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i concur with the above commentary


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It's due to Facebook I found this site :-) And I joined here for the same reason as I joined Facebook: to stay in touch with my friends and meet new friends :-)

As it says on the main page: "Gays.com is a free social network that helps you find new friends and connect with your local LGBT community."

Think this description is clear enough that this isn't a "dating" (porn) site, but yes, there are always people who have to ruin it for others...

I agree with you Jony, and all the others, in what you are saying very much. I'm not a member here that long (only a week) but for me Gays.com is also like a facebook for the LGBT community! :-)

It is definitely possible to make friends online, though sometimes not so easy. The few friends I've made online (mostly facebook) I talk to like (almost) every day and I know I want to stay in touch with them for as long as I live :-)
And hopefully meet them one day in real life :-)


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Tommy_Storey
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WOW,to all what i have read.
And,yes i all so do believe in
On line FRENDSHIP`S ...........


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Tommy_Storey
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a Double gold Star to each and
every one of you ........


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Michael_Wolfe
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Jony I like what I have read and all the comments too..I have a LTR and it will be 25 years in Sept...We didn't meet on line...but thats is getting off track...I have been on here for a few years now and have meet alot of friends and at one point there was alot of them talking to me untill I put on my profile page that I didn't want to talk about sex and not looking for it...so because of that I deleted alot of them..I think that your comments and what others have said I will be deleteing mor of them...For the past month I have sent b-day wishes and out of them noone has said thank you...

Sorry for the rant...but all I can say is this site is a good place to make friends weather it be LTR or just friends...


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thanks for the support guys...i know online friendships are possible...cuz i already consider most of you my friends...and i'll know we'll stay in touch...^_^


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Elvia_Beck
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Missed you Jony...was away for a bit....but I'm back. Glad to see you are still here. Maybe I will see you in Atlanta for Pride.


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Elvia_Beck
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I missed everyone!


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David_Cloud
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I have a fantastic online friendship. We have helped each other and inspired each other enormously yet we have never met.

One of the great things about being online friends is that we have daily contact with each other and its great to have that continuity of contact and the daily thrill of getting that email, opening it up and seeing what each other have been doing or are feeling.


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i've missed you too Elvia...it's good to know you're back...and that's right David...the best thing about these online relationships is that we can check up on each other from time to time if not everyday...


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