Deleted Member Posted November 9, 2010 What is being perplexed, if not being confused, or unsure of what is real and unreal. I met this fantastic man a couple weeks ago, He kind of has his eye on a cub that he says he likes alot. Okay that`s all good. I am a cancer he is a leo, and man we are so much alike it isn`t even funny. He and i committed to be friends with benefits. and this too is cool. But here lately i have been becomming more and more perplexed, by him, by his subtle way of doing things, by his nature, by his habits, by his demeaner, just prety much by him completely. I have never been this way about any man. I know that i am not in love with him. I know i like him a heck of alot, and i care about him, i think about him alot, I write to him on the net at least once a day, and i have gotten together with him three times in the last two weeks that we have known one another. I love making Passionate love with him. He is the top and i the bottom, but i have found myself thinking about topping him and i know that he is primarily a top but not totally. I have all these weird emotions that i can`t get a grasp on and i can`t understand.We went out to dinner and had a drink tonight and went back to his place and i knew he was tired and i excused myself and went home. The only thing that i could think about, was him getting his rest so that he would be okay at work tomorrow. We didn`t have sex and this is just fine with me. No problem. I just don`t know how this man could perplex me so when no other man ever has. One more thing, I`ve had three boyfriends in my lifetime, and all of them i have called Daddy or Papa at one time or another, and it was accepted by each and felt okay to me but this new man, when i call him Daddy or Papa, he thinks it is weird, but he is not the only one that thinks it`s weird, i too feel it, yet it is not so much weird to me as it feels out of place. Just needed to share this with you all. As soon as i figure it out i think i`ll be okay. thanks for reading this.