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i dont understand it at all with some people like if u think im a no then dont flirt just be flat out im not interested it would hurt alot less if that was said i dont wanna play mind games and try and read your thoughts its not right im not the most attractive buti can pull my weight in a relationship exceptionally so i dont care if i look weird or am weird i just want exceptance is that so hard like how far do i have to go to let everyone know pfft if that was possible im constantly ignored.....


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Hi Lerel, nice 2 read ur Comment's, yeh u are so Right. Well i think ur Cool, and would be Honoured 2 be ur Friend.


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beauty runs far beneath the surface, and if a person cannot see past a person's aesthetic attributes, then they don't deserve to be graced with your time. marilyn monroe once said "if you can't handle me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best!" don't let the ignorance of someone who clearly lacks where it REALLY counts ruin your day.... our flaws are what make us beautiful and unique, don't let anyone put a damper on your self love


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Heebie999
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You're not ugly.
Have you tried going to different places? I know since I moved from the U.S. to Ireland, I've learned a lot more about socialisation, and have gotten into a position where I get to talk to people & get to know them, rather than being ignored constantly.

Perhaps you should try getting involved in some social group that is based around something you enjoy? If you're into gaming like D&D, that's a community you should already have something in common with. You don't have to limit yourself to gay clubs or anything like that, meet people wherever you are.. if you're places where you have things in common with the others there, you'll get to talking.

There tends to be a LOT of talking before anything more will develop, too. You can't expect to be in a relationship with someone if you only met them 10 minutes ago. There's a lot of work involved in getting to know someone.

Be patient


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Tach_Chew_We
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Lerel i think you a nice guy imlike nchatting with you but rember may guys thinbk with there eyes and let there hormones ge t the best of tham sorry to sometime thay miss out a a guy who is realy nice just be true to who you are thgats what makes you special


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Lerel, I understand very well what u r saying. I've been treated the same way because I'm not what they call a "pretty boy". I think that u r very sexy & real cute. I like the fact that u don't look like everybody else. That actually is part of what attracts me 2 u. I would love 2 b ur friend! Hmu!


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i hear u guys but it's i have always b een patient always some guys come to me but i cant do anything cause of circumstances of situations and i tend to ignore it so i mean i have no where to basically go i like alot and it gets me bombed and rejected the most i just simply dont know how long this game of life is going to take me im about ready to call it quits


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life is a journey, not a destination, if ur looking for an end to circumstance, then ur never going to be happy. life is never fair, but is is always beautiful.


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Heebie999
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If you're in situations where guys approach you, and you cannot respond, then there's something wrong. It sounds like you're not out of the closet, and that you're around people whom you're trying to keep from finding out you're gay.
If that's the problem, then you need to say "fuck them! I'm going to live my own life!" and start reacting to the guys that approch you without regard to whom else is around you.
If you can't react because you're at work, then that might be a little bit different, depending on what you do for work.


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yeah i was coming to that conclusion but i dont want to cause word spreads fast around here and its something i dont want my parents to hear


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Heebie999
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Think of it this way: Do you want your parents to hear it from you, on your terms, or do you want them to hear about it from someone else?
At some point.. they will hear about it.
If you're living with them, and it could cause you serious problems if they have a negative reaction, I can understand trying to keep things on the down low.


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yeah they dont exactly like it so i mean i think i would only tell them when i move out it would better that way


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Read jst a few, but I feel tht all those the feel beauty is skin deep don't live n the gay community where it's all about face n hwp. Tht's y i don't hve me on profile because. I'm fat n ugly by these standards. N without them they win because i believe, long before they told me so. I'm the fat where u r told "u hve a cute face, but wld b so much handsomer if u loss 50-60 lbs.


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aww


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Lerel: I really don't think I could write anything pertinent that hasn't already been shared with you by some pretty awesome people judging by their responses. I believe it says volumes about how others see you--and I trust they're being honest. I further believe that if THEY can see someone of value just as you are, surely others will...and someone worthy of a space in your life cannot be far away.

Take heart! Believe in yourself; see yourself positively. As with most facets of life, everything begins with us as individuals. When you exude confidence--without arrogance or a cocky nature--it radiates outward from you, and people pick up on that beautiful, vibrant energy. Know what qualities it is that you want in a significant other. So often we don't attract what we want in a companion because we ourselves are ambivalent about what it is we seek. Get crystal clear on your ideals; remain completely honest and true to self. Someone may not appear right away, but I believe he will show up, usually when you least expect him to! And, in the interim, stay focused on interests you may have and rejoice in them. 'Down time' is often a very good thing. It took me forever to learn this, but once I did, I was freed from the angst and anxiety of waiting for someone special.

You are SPECIAL & BEAUTIFUL, Lerel. Let no one tell you differently. But, for your inner magic to work effectively, you've got to know this without fail on the inside. Sending you much love and inner peace. :-)


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Michael_Wolfe
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A.J. those are some very nice words...and I will agree with everything you said...


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From me, they're genuine. I do wish people would learn to accept others as they are, not as they wish them to be. I despise shallow behavior, too. And what right does anyone have to call someone else 'ugly' or unattractive? Beauty truly does lie in the eyes of the beholder. Even if we agree that so and so isn't the best looking man or woman we've ever encountered, do we make ourselves any more attractive by openly saying so? What happened to a little thing called tact? Makes me so angry.


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I wish I could say I do not understand what you mean Lerel, but sadly I do.No matter where you go, everywhere there are people who constantly judge you on how you look without even knowing who you really are... Long time I've been ignored by people, now I don't care anymore. It's my life and I live it the way I want it and so should you. :-)) I don't judge on appearance (or looks) because I'm far from perfect myself and I accept everyone for who he or she is. After all, we didn't make ourselves, did we :-D Never think of yourself as ugly, because you are not! You are a unique human beïng and perfect in your own way, as I'm unique in my way :-) Real beauty has to come from the heart, from inside you. When you are beautiful inside it makes you even more beautiful on the outside. And it's that kind of beauty you get to see, the real beauty, when you take the time to get to know a person and not just judge on appearance :-)


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i wish i saw this earlier before i left for a llong while from this site i wanna know who that deleted user was


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