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Juanis_San
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ok, so i know i was wrong for doing this.

my gf had her personal stuff up, emails and stuff like that.
i got on the computer no problem, went to my own stuff.
then i decided to look at her stuff while opening and closing tabs.
i pull open a couple emails.
...i see a bunch of writing...
so i DONT read them
but she saw that i opened them and most likely she thinks i read them
i mean its expected when someone opens emails right?

so now im like by her reaction it seems as if there was stuff written i shouldnt have read. now i kinda wanna know but i dunno her info but i dont wanna try at it either cause its her stuff.

im still opening and closing windows tho....

i dunno maybe her reaction is to be expected. her reaction im guessing was to look at her resent history in the browser confirmed that i did open emails.

i know i didnt read anything, but i did open her private stuff =/

how would u react to this?


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Maybe, if you have not done it yet, you should start with a very big and very sincere apology to your gf.


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Juanis_San
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i havent yet. she is upstairs.
yeah this happen a couple mins ago.
i dunno what to say.
im sorry i went thru ur mail? invaded ur privacy?

its gonna sound more a smart ass/asswholelish apology


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Yes you crossed a boundary but if she is SO upset what is the real issue? Best of luck. Let things settle a bit before you apologize.


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Whatever you say, she has to know that you really mean it.

As to your opening question (can anybody read this?), I think the answer is that anybody who logs into gays.com can indeed read it. If you are suggesting, by asking this, can your gf read this: maybe she should, so that she understands that you know that you have made a mistake.

Of course this depends on how the two of you communicate in other situations.


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Maybe it would help the both of you sat down together and actually put in writing what each expects of the other. This way, mistakes like this would not happen. Instead, the both of you would have definite and clear cut boundaries solidified in writing leaving nothing, but nothing, to question.


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Tommy_Storey
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Well, just say SORRY. !!!!!!!!!!!!!

If there is TRUST,between you both,then she
she will forgive you.
I she does not,then,i am sorry to say,that you
now have a big problem,on your hand`s.
lol,xxx
Tommy,xxx


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No matter what you say...there will for a time a lack of trust she has with you. Only time will tell. Take this as a lesson, do not open someone else's mail period. Put yourself in her shoes.


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Juanis_San
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I have no issue with her reading my msgs, and yes I did cross the line. I know it would take a while to regain trust. I'm never ever going to do that again. I'm not even going to check our mailbox. Pretty much i'm going to stay clear of any of her belongings.


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Yeremiah_Hardt
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Own up to it and see her point if you love her


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Elvia_Beck
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Having just gone through the same crap, I have to say, the seed of doubt was set by actions. I too had to look nextime I got a chance and there it was, plain as day. What was in black and white left nothing to the imagination! My gf denied it all and complained that was snooping and oh yes I'm too suspicious! Hmmm, I wonder why. I hope it's something that can be resolved between you. I hate to see couples break up. But, you'll always have that doubt now.


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Tommy_Storey
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Yes i must admit,that Insecure feeling,what you
get is not vary nice,when,the trust has gone
out of a Relationship.!!!!!!!!!!!.
xxxx


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Elvia_Beck
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So very true Tommy. I does hurt. But, I can let her decide what my life is going to be like tomorrow.it's up too me to make it better.


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Tommy_Storey
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I truly hope that you can work thing`s out,Elvia, xxx


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Elvia_Beck
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She's getting cut off! Point blank!


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Juanis_San
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ok, so i told her. and we had had a long talk.
and i broke up w/her =/
then i took it back.
but she is holding me to my words. she is right on to do so.
so i have till the end of the month
to earn another chance.or step out the door.
i care for the kids, yes every other hour i wanna snap their heads off but when they are not being themselves i miss it.
and i really dont want to see my life w/out them.


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Juanis_San
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i love them and i am going to fight for them.
my worst enemy is myself.
i need to change myself.
because they are awesome.
i want to give them the world.
and not the verbal abuse i give them every other day.

i have till the end of the month to earn another chance.


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David_Cloud
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Really go for it Juanis, give it your best effort !!! Sure you can do it OK.


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Juanis_San
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thanks! i need to believe i can. im a very negative person.
but foe them i need to try my best.
i will update on how it goes at the end month :S
hopefully is with WE are still TOGETHER.
i love them with all my heart.


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Best of luck


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