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Phil_Lex_Archer
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For many years now 6 in total i have had a semi troubled relationship with a guy who has the habit of stealing items from my home and blaming it on me for making him feel like he is a peice of meat for sex, yet we barely indulge in sex at all. Recreational drugs play large part in hi life, i dont do them, but i am bullied into paying for his fix. I really love him but feel i and hitting a brick wall with this guy, do i cut loose or hope he stops and see if things improve?


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Tommy_Storey
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Hello,Philip,

I know that you might not like,what i am gonna say ??
But here it goes.
I know that you Love this Guy,and you must think alot
of him, ?, But the thing is He is Useing you Big time,
For that one fact alone,you should,Get Rid of him as
soon as possible.and find your self a good Guy and Move on,lol


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I Agree with Tommy ...... Get rid of him and you can't do it Soon enough .........


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Phil_Lex_Archer
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I absolutely agree with you guys but when i dump his sorry ass its all quiet for a week or two then he's i bak in contact like nothing bad has happen and when i voice my reasons its in my head or i drive him to it and den promise never to do it again. Being 46 i feel im at the tailend of relationship experience and wont find love again so i guess its wh i let him bak tyme and again.


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Phil_Lex_Archer
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Thanks guys i understand the obvious movement but when he pleads forgiveness i accept and it starts all ova, i guess cos im 46 yro i find im on the shelf of relationships so make do with wot i have/had.


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Michael_Wolfe
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Not only get rid of him but never ever take him back again....It will always be him using you and gedtting what he wants and then he going to steal from you again...Phillip get away from him now!!!!!!!Just because you are 46 don't mean you can't find you a good man that is going to help you and not hurt you....


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Phillip is he younger than you? Even if he is you should dump him for two reasons. He is not doing you any good and if you keep taking him back and he just carries on like before then he won't ever learn so you not doing him any favours either


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Phil_Lex_Archer
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Dean i've gone weeks and months without ever hearing or seeing him so i know i can live without him and yes he is younger approx 25 but he knows how to sway me so well. Recently about a month now i lost my mother and excluding immediate family i have'nt a shoulder to cry on,he has got wind of affairs and is eager to be with me for support and love but i fear its just a ploy to make a fool of me eventually. Im not on the scene and lack courage to socialise in any sense.


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My Dad died suddenly and as my mum started drinking real bad then I had nobody. I was 10.5 yo and in the end at 13 I started looking for men to get some comfort and understanding, even love. You don't find that sort of man in a cruising wood when you are 13yo, they were only interested in one thing, and they too it and I started to think that being gay was like that, abusive sex in woods with men who were only interested in two holes and ignored the rest of me. it really screwed me up till I tried to stop the feeling for good, and failed and started to get some help to sort myself out. You look and seem like a nice guy so don't let him use you, like especially now you are down and feeling low. It won't help you get over things and will only make it worse in the end. I bin there, done it and bought the baseball cap.

You will find the right guy for you, I did, and it happens when U R not looking. He was a lot older than me and it only lasted 6 months and he died from cancer that he had not told me about, but he made me feel clean, brainy and loved. Now I have a great friend my sort of age on here and he also makes me fool good about life and me. It WILL happen to you I am sure. I also have a st8 friend, my best friend, who told me he had guessed I was gay but has told nobody and it has not made any difference to our friendship. It is great to actually have a st8 friend who knows I am gay and is ok about it, even to having sleep-overs and sharing a bed.

Phillip just live, life is far to precious and important to take seriously.


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Phil_Lex_Archer
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Ur words cheered me Dean and not cos its polite to say so,either i hear what you are saying, When i was a teenager on the gay scene i was always the odd one out amongst the then friends who had not scored, so it kinda drilled into my mind that i was unattractive a geek even so i never put my self out to score eventually. As years went on i fell into the practice of paying friends for sex not prositutes but mates i knew who were str8 with gf's and babies. It kinda got known and dis is why i am in my current situ, although i no longer pay out for cock, its a line dat is used to get their wants, if not im ignored. But things about my lost has taken prescadents over sex so im ok for now.


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Tommy_Storey
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lol


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Phil_Lex_Archer
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How is that funny??? Its a nightmare situ to get away from.


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Tommy_Storey
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Hi,there,Phillip,
No i do not think that it is Funny in any way shape or form.
When i put lol Phillip, it was me being, Vary,lazy in my writing.
In stead of putting lol, i should of wrote.- I emperthise with you and
you have got my full support.

I am sorry Phillip if i have upset you some more,though my Laziness.

Tommy,



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David_Cloud
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Tommy , judging by the way you use LOL in so many of your comments around the discussion groups I think you should probably check your definitions. The most usual meaning of LOL is 'laugh out loud' , but it looks like you often use it as a shorthand for its less usual meaning of 'lots of love'. This looks like why Phillip was puzzled by your comment....


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Tommy_Storey
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Hi,there,David,
Thank`s for getting in contact,with me.

In my case David, LOL when i put it will mean
Lot`s of Love,but i can now see as as plain as
day,whare any misundersting`s may arise now.

By now,David,you have seen quiert alot of my
Comment`s,on the site,and you know that i don`t
have any Malis in me at all,because,all what i want
to do,like the rest of the group is to Help,whare i can.

Yes david,i just want to thank you for pointing out
whare i went wrong with Phillip,and i can now understand
why he has got so upset. ( I would too. ).

I thank you again,David. lol = ( Lot`s of Love ).
Tommy,xxxx


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David_Cloud
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I thought that was why there was a misunderstanding, Tommy. Glad it's all clear now.


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Phil_Lex_Archer
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Having read ur explanation Tommy i now understand ur original posting and apologise for getting upset on the matter, so i bypass the problem and extend m warmest6 thanks of support


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Tommy_Storey
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Thank you,Philip,and also to you,David. lol= ( Lot`s of Love,) to the both of you.


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