AUGUST 26, 2010 Topic of the Day = staying with someone only to not hurt them - Looking for LOVE!!!

[Raul_Gon]

AUGUST 26, 2010 Topic of the Day = staying with someone only to not hurt them

Have you ever been with someone who you find out is not the person you looking for but the nice and all but you don't wanna break up with them so you don't hurt them or make them feel bad? What to do in situations like that?

[Andre_Flilipe_Caldas_De_Sousa]

sorry?

[Deleted Member]

I would say that is affection.Which is a good thing in a relationship.You dont have to start with love to build a good relationship,it might come to you eventually.But if it doesn't for you,Then step back.While it doesn't mean to disappear suddenly...It's understandable that you dont want to hurt others but you shouldn't hurt yourself too in any case.saying "no" is not bad.It's a bit ***ful at start but it does settles lot of issues and avoid making your relationship and life complicated.
So either say no now or wait for yourself to actually fall in love with him.Which might do,given that the person loves you so much that you cant give anything back but love.But then,waiting for unforeseeable future for you to fall in love can very well exhaust the relationship.So,all in all,stepping back now Is the perfect step to take.