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When you see your friends finding others, what goes through your mind? Is it happiness, jealousy or just pure indifference? As a gay man just turned 18, I realized that my life doesn't work quite the same way as straight lives. What is it that makes a relationship for me work? Is it the attraction, the passion, the engagement, the security, the affection? What makes a gay relationship start and tick? I have only had two boyfriends and yes that is more than I can say more many at my age. However, the quality of the relationships were vastly different. When a good relationship ends, I ask myself why. and How? When? Why did this end? How can I move on? When will the new person come into my life? After searching on sites and going about the gay areas of near by cities, I have found that rushing and putting a foot out into the world can only help for so much of the adventure. The biggest virtue is to wait and see. Being ambitious, patience is a virtue lacked horrifically, but while I wait I focus my efforts on school, work and community. Family is always a number one but love... When will this crucial aspect of human culture find it's way to my doorstep again? What will it take? College? Med school? ... suppose when i least expect or when i try and make effort to go forth...


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Tommy_Storey
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Take thing`s nice and Slow,and don`t jump in with both feet, untill you fill shure
to do so. Remember, that you have the rest of you Life in front of you, so you
can afford to go a Tad Slower. lol.


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Timothy_Brown
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I would tend to agree with Tommy. You do have many years ahead of you. Thereis no need to rush yourself.


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i find going slow is best but very different from High School life. Things are slow but occur more often. Hence the pace is different. the rate of change increases same speed but things occur more often. Events and plans are made easier in the halls then through email or txt confirmation from a different city. Its not a lot to go on. I'm currently talking to guys and have gone on dates this year. However, no one really has yet struck the heartstrings yet. Waiting for that great romantic yet chill guy to find...


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Tommy_Storey
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Don`t worry,Love will creap up on you,when you Least Exspect and bites you on
the bum, lol.


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its really not a big issue yet. Its hard to focus on the idea that i still have time and shouldnt worry


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Yuan-Xiong_Tan
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Hey mate. I'm going to assume you're either in college or university halls? I just went through that stage myself lol. I know what you mean by things going fast, the fact that there are so many people around to socialise with can be daunting and time consuming at first but you'll get the hang of it.

Playing it slow is a good idea, it'll ensure you come across the perfect guy, instead of someone you think you'll connect with but is less than ideal because you rushed in. Worse would be to hook up with someone out of desperation and find out he's a total twat.

Good luck with your search I'm looking for a Mr Right too. So far only managed to find a Mr. Wright. hehehe xD


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