It’s time to wave bi bi to some common misconceptions about lovin’ both men and women... and I'm bisexual myself so I should know! People always seem to have their opinion on bisexuality, and not always good! So here are some of the myths and facts around those of us who date both genders…

Myth 1: Bisexuals can’t be monogamous
Fact: Yes they can! Just because they may date one person at a time, or even be with one person all their life, doesn’t mean they’re not bisexual. You don’t need to date people of both genders at any given time to prove you’re bisexual.

Myth 2: People who are married, in heterosexual relationships, or in gay relationships can’t be bisexual
Fact: They can. If you only date people of one gender it doesn’t prove that’s all you like.

Myth 3: Bisexuals are just experimenting – they’ll get over it
Fact: While some people experiment, it’s possible to be fully bisexual without it being just experimenting. Not all of them get over it. Many people are serious about liking people of both genders.

Myth 4: Bisexuals are all swingers who have threesomes and orgies
Fact: The majority of bisexuals sleep with one person at a time.

Myth 5: Bisexuals are sleazy, and like anything that moves
Fact: Most bisexuals are not sleazy, and they only like some men and some women, not all.

Myth 6: Bisexuals are sitting on the fence, are confused, and don’t know what they really want
Fact: Most bisexuals are comfortable with their sexuality, know they like people of both genders, and are happy with it.

Myth 7: Bisexuals are really gay or straight people who just dabble in bisexuality to be trendy
Fact: People can genuinely like people of both genders at the same time. There are more than two possible orientations.



Myth 8: People who start off identifying as gay or straight can’t turn bisexual
Fact: They can. Sexual orientation is not fixed, and can vary during a person’s lifetime. People who start off thinking they’re gay or straight can realise they’re bisexual.

Myth 9: Bisexual thoughts are normal, but acting on them is not
Fact: It doesn’t have to be just a fantasy. Acting on it is normal.

Myth 10: Bisexuality is not healthy
Fact: Like all orientations, bisexuality is healthy. Whether the person you date is your soulmate or a bit of fun, if you care about them and treat them right it’s healthy.

Myth 11: Bisexuals can’t be faithful
Fact: Bisexuals can be faithful. If you like the person enough and respect them, you don’t need to look elsewhere while you’re with that person.

Myth 12: Bisexuality is rare, they’re sexual deviants, and homophobic people are straight
Fact: Apparently 60% of the population is bisexual at any given time, even if they only date people of one gender. It’s not a deviation, it’s a legitimate lifestyle. Homophobia comes from peoples’ fears about themselves, and people who harass bisexuals and gays have bi or gay tendencies themselves. If they didn’t, it wouldn’t threaten them so much.

Myth 13: Bisexuals are promiscuous
Fact: Bisexuals are no more likely to be promiscuous than people of any other orientation. On average they have the same number of relationships during their lifetimes as straight or gay people.

Myth 14: Bisexuals always have a preference
Fact: While some bisexuals like people of the same sex or opposite sex more, there are many bisexuals who are truly 50/50. Who says you have to choose?

We're glad that's cleared up then! Have you ever had feelings of bisexuality or encountered any of the things on this list?


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tells how to weed the pervert gene from population pool

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I prefer to have sex with bi's. They are often active and masculine. I have had some relations with gays. It was somewhat complicated. Much drama. I like to be single. Since many years I have an awesome bi/straight acting lover. I do admire him cause he loves women too. I myself have never had sex with a woman.

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I will pose this question. My dtr states that she is Bi. I don't really care if she is or isn't. However, i remember being told long ago by a gay friend that gays don't like or accept Bi's because they enjoy both. Is this true or just some propagandic bs?

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I'm so glad that finally someone put this myths out of the table...thank you! I'm bisexual, and I like men and women in the same way....

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Who knew! [url]http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/23/celebrate-bisexuality-day_n_5863320.html?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000063[/url]

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Like Calvin, I also have found certain women very appealing. I identify as a gay man, and have had one female encounter. I was 20, she was 36, and it all went very floppy. I have had a few bisexual friends, but they do seem to be far rarer than gay people. Interesting facts above tho, good blog.

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Such a shame that such stereotypes exist so thanks to Sapphire to help make this clear! I especially like Myth 8: I identify as a gay guy and have never had a sexual experience with a woman... however, on just 3 or 4 occasions I've met women who I felt some sort of attraction for... it wasn't a sexual feeling, just finding them really attractive/interesting. One time it was in an airport queue: a stranger, but there was something about her I could not explain, just a feeling that was she was special, LOL! Does this mean I am bisexual?

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