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  2. Alex Hopkins looks at two films from this year’s BFI Flare London LGBT Film Festival which show the LGBT community at its most powerful as it battles the legacy of colonialism. Colonialization never ends well, particularly for sexual minorities. One only needs to look at the situation in Uganda, one of the most hostile environments for LGBT people in the world, to see what happens when Christian missionaries foist their dubious morals on another culture. We have come to expect institutionalised homophobia from many African countries, but – as revealed by two important documentaries at this year’s BFI Flare London LGBT Film Festival - imperialism has also ruptured LGBT lives in India even near the Arctic Circle, leaving a dark legacy which the next generation is still struggling to overcome. Am I the only gay Eskimo? Few hidden LGBT histories are as fascinating – and little known – as that surrounding Inuit sexuality and the alternative family structures explored in Mark Kenneth Woods and Michael Yerxa’s wonderful Two Soft Things, Two Hard Things. Back in the 1950s, the Inuit population of north-west Canada was colonised and forced to live in settlement camps run by zealous missionaries. They were promised housing, animals and tools – but received precious little, leaving many of them sick, starving and separated from their loved ones. The ruthless attempts to assimilate this ancient culture into something other than they were has had a profound and long-lasting psychological and sociological effect on the Inuit population - particularly on LGBT people, who have been at increased risk of suicide and self-harm through drugs, alcohol and unsafe sex. Through interviews with young LGBT people and the touching story of how Nunavut’s first Pride picnic grew to become its first full Festival, we witness a moving journey of ‘unshaming’ and healing. Along the way, we hear the sadly all too familiar assertions that homosexuality never existed in the north and that gay people are paedophiles. What resonates throughout all of this, however, is the triumph of the collective will of a small, but mighty community over adversity – a determination to live life on their terms, whatever the costs. More interesting still, however, is the forgotten story of Inuit sexuality. We see how history is excavated and brought back to the present to reveal that same-sex relationships did indeed occur centuries ago in this remote, snowy outpost – despite the adamant denials of the rapacious colonisers. The message of this compassionate and intelligent film is ultimately a universal one: uncovering and understanding the past means we can re-examine society’s definitions around sexuality, gender and family structures – giving us the knowledge to empower the youth of tomorrow. Image from the documentary: Two Soft Things, Two Hard Things. India: Raging against the Raj The fight of LGBT people against brutal colonial ghosts – this time in India – is also the focus of Sridhar Rangayan’s award-winning documentary Breaking Free. The film, which was shot between 2007 and 2014, tracks the frequently traumatic but always startlingly brave attempts by India’s LGBT activists to eradicate section 377 of the Indian Penal Code, which makes sex with persons of the same gender punishable by law. The film is an excellent study of the power of activism, tracing the fledgeling LGBT rights movement in India from its initial demand for the decriminalisation of homosexuality in 1989, right through to its landmark victory in July 2009 with the Delhi High Court verdict making consensual sex between adults legal in private. We’re taken on a painful, heart-pounding journey, which – as we know – culminated in the devastating December 2013 judgment by India’s Supreme Court to overrule the High Court. You are, by this point, so deeply involved in the lives and dreams of Rangayan’s formidable interviewees that you too feel the depths of their pain at this defeat. The litany of human rights abuses suffered by India’s LGBT population – frequent beatings, sexual assault and extortion (and that’s just by the police, who we see repeatedly using Section 377 to live out their twisted desires) – is almost unimaginable. From the testimony of the Hijra who was gang-raped and then set upon by police with batons, to possibly the most devastating scene of all, in which a young woman breaks down as she describes her road sweeper brother who set himself on fire during yet another gang rape by the police, every story captivates and humbles as much as it shocks. India’s LGBT activists will not be cowed. The war against Section 377 still goes on – and the film concludes with the promise of a brighter future as we see images from scores of demonstrations around the world in support of equality. Yes, for now, the legal system may have won, but Rangayan’s depiction of a community breaking free from hatred, injustice and self-loathing reminds us that when we work together – our bonds cemented by love and integrity. It is only a matter of time before we triumph over the relics of an evil past.
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  8. Last Men Standing, which premiered at this year’s BFI Flare London LGBT Film Festival, is a deeply sensitive portrait of long-term HIV survivors, says Alex Hopkins at Gays.com. In the United States, half of those living with HIV or AIDS are over the age of 50. These are the survivors, those who have been expecting to die for decades. Erin Brethauer and Timothy Hussin’s poignant and exquisitely made documentary - produced by the San Francisco Chronicle - follows eight of these survivors as they navigate the complex terrain of age, guilt and loss in what was once the west coast’s gay mecca. Scene from Last Men Standing. Image courtesy of BFI Flare. The senselessness of the epidemic has left them reeling – and Brethauer and Hussin encapsulate both the suddenness and ferocity of its advent as archival footage of 1970s gay parades cuts to early news reports counting the dead. Yes, this may be a familiar story, but each time you hear it, you feel like you’ve been punched in the gut. Everything about this hugely important film is beautifully conceived, from the haunting soundtrack to the seamless editing which juxtaposes the myth of a utopian past with an often unremittingly bleak present. In a typically powerful sequence, we see 61-year-old Peter Greene sitting in the darkness as he watches himself being interviewed on San Francisco’s streets in the early 1980s, just before his HIV diagnosis. “Why aren’t you going cruising tonight?” the reporter asks. “Because what’s going around is not worth it. I don’t want to die,” he replies. The camera then pans in on Peter in 2015, his expression stoical, but everything else about his body language shell-shocked: yes, he has cheated death, but he feels cheated that he is still alive. The other interviewees tell a similar story: 55-year-old Jesus explains that he no longer needs to worry about being gay but that being old and living with HIV brings other concerns, while another man comments on how youth and beauty are the currency of the gay world. Losing these makes you invisible, he explains. All of these accounts are devoid of self-pity. They’re often delivered flatly - sometimes cracked through with emotion - but always with absolute honesty and a fierce resilience. Of all the stories, Peter’s is the most devastating. He and his business partner – Jonathan – were forced out of Now Voyager, the LGBT travel agency they ran and lived above for 30 years in San Francisco through the gentrification which has ripped the soul out of the city. Unable to afford the $3,600 a month required to rent a one-bedroom apartment, Peter had to leave the area he so loved. Scene from Last Men Standing. Image courtesy of BFI Flare. Hearing this, it’s difficult not to draw bitter comparisons between the thriving, caring community of the 1980s and the casual cruelty of rapacious property developers today – and yet as we’re told how Peter’s friends clumped together to buy him a mobile home, we’re reminded that if compassion and solidarity still exists, there can be hope, even in the darkest of times. And despite the desolate realities that these men face – financial hardship, loneliness, acute mental health issues – this profoundly tender film shows us – in the words of one of the men – that “things can be turned around”. We hear of how new relationships blossomed, of how one man found a purpose through voluntary work in a cat sanctuary, and then ultimately – in a supremely life-affirming scene – we watch as these brave warriors come together at a survivors’ ball, swaying gently to music as they release a lifetime of trauma and suffering. The path to wanting to be alive is tough and ongoing but starts when we learn to appreciate what’s truly precious: hope, pride – and, above all, love.
  9. From 16-26 March, Gays.com will be covering a fantastic line-up of international and European premieres of the best LGBT cinema. As one of the most important LGBT film events, BFI Flare 2017 will include over 50 features and more than 100 shorts. Check out the Reviews section in the magazine to get the lowdown on the best of the crop!
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  12. One of the most significant and longstanding LGBT film events in the world, BFI Flare 2017 will include over 50 features, more than 100 shorts and a wide range of special events. Gays.com's Alex Hopkins braces himself to cover an exciting line-up of international and European premieres of the best LGBT cinema. Keeping it legal Seventy years ago, the 1967 Sexual Offences Act decriminalised homosexual acts in private between two men (who had reached the age of 21) in England and Wales. With recent advances in equality, it’s sometimes easy to forget the profound impact that this legislation had on gay men’s lives. The world premiere of Fergus O’Brien’s Against the Law – which looks at the events that led up to the creation of the Wolfenden Committee on sexual law reform – promises to be a timely and powerful reminder. The perfect film to open the festival with on March 16th. Grappling with gender The centrepiece screening of the 2017 festival is the European premiere of Torrey Pines, described as “a psychedelic stop-motion animation about a child grappling with gender identity and a schizophrenic mother.” Just a few challenges issues to deal with there, then! Keep ‘em cumming… Alan Cumming is one of the most respected gay actors, and can always be counted upon to deliver a powerhouse performance. In After Louie, he plays a New York artist, whose life is turned upside down by an encounter with a much younger man. Well, who hasn’t been there – or doesn’t want to be there? After Louie Camp ‘n Carrie One of the great things about BFI Flare is that it gives you the chance to see some classics on the big screen. One such delight is Mommy Dearest, the deliciously camp biography of wire-hanger wielding Joan Crawford, starring Faye Dunaway. In 2016 we lost two other gay icons, Carrie Fisher and her mother, Debbie Reynolds. But, fear not, you can catch them again in Morgan White’s The Slippers, a documentary about Dorothy’s legendary ruby footwear in The Wizard of Oz. You can’t get much gayer than that. Forbidden identities – and desires Two fascinating documentaries uncover forbidden relationships and gender identities – in two of the world’s most dangerous places. Out of Iraq looks at the love between two young Iraqi soldiers at the height of the Iraq war, while The Pearl of Africa traces the heroic story of Cleopatra Kambuga, the first out transgender woman in Uganda. Prepare to come away inspired – and humbled. Out of Iraq Trans triumphs! There’s still a long way to go for trans rights, and to win the battles; it’s essential that trans visibility remains consistently high on the agenda. There’s plenty to choose from in this year’s programme. Highlights include FTWTF: Female to What the Fuck, in which several trans-identified people openly discuss the intricacies of transitioning, and The Trans List, featuring some of the world’s most prominent trans people, including Caitlin Jenner and Laverne Cox, telling their stories. FTWTF: Female to What the Fuck Crossing cultures The festival closes with the premiere of Jennifer Reeder’s Signature Move (March 26th). Billed as a comedy drama, it stars Pakistani-Canadian actress, Fawzia Mirza, Bollywood actor Shabana Azmi and Mexican-American Sari Sanchez, and is a cross-cultural romance about a lesbian living in Chicago with her recently widowed mother. Other films to watch out for: Last Man Standing: a documentary charting the life of eight long-term survivors who live with AIDS. Handsome Devil: a look at the unlikely relationship between an isolated gay teen and his hot rugby playing roommate – in Ireland. Two Soft Things, Two Hard Things: something very different here: an exploration of the difficulties of LGBT life in Canada’s remote Arctic Inuit population. See, we're everywhere! Tell that to our haters! ______________________________________________________________________________________ BFI Flare runs from March 16th-26th. Full listings at: http://www.bfi.org.uk/flare Remember to check out Gays.com for our forthcoming festival coverage.
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    What happens when a rampant top can’t find a bottom who grips like a vice? Gays.com takes a look at the high-tech sex toy wankathons offered by Fleshjacks… Image courtesy of Fleshjack A Fleshjack? What is it: some dodgy cross between a flashlight and a car jack? Close, but no cigar. It’s shaped like a flashlight and will certainly light you up and jack you off. The Fleshjack, of course, is supposed to stand in for the ass – with internal material shaped to resemble real flesh, this is covered in a plastic case – the bit that looks like a flashlight. Simple – and oh so sophisticated. Sophisticated? We’re talking about jacking one out here… Indeed, we are, but in the last ten years, the world of penetrable male sex toys has been revolutionised. Forget ramming your bits into cheap bits of plastic and vinyl coated with fake pubes; the Fleshjack is sleek, modern and ultra-trendy. This isn’t a jerk off toy for some creepy, desperate old queen (no, really!) – this is a ‘masturbatory sleeve,’ darling. Image courtesy of Fleshjack You’re making it sound like the latest smartphone… Well, in many ways it is! These devices have been carefully fashioned with the most recent technology to as closely resemble a real ass as possible. So, it’s tighter than the real thing? Now we’re talking! Well, certainly tighter than your average scene queen after a Pride weekend bender – and neither will you get the tedious “fuck me harder! Faster!” that you do from a power bottom. Prize those flaps apart and drill away. Any preparation required? For ultra-pleasure slip the flesh-like interior out of the plastic case and let it soak in some warm water for a bit. Once heated up, it’ll be sufficiently sloppy and gag for that dick of doom - it’ll be so realistic you’ll practically hear it squeal with delight. And afterwards, this is going to get messy, isn’t it? Good sex is messy – anything else is a let-down – and masturbation should be no different. Once you’ve dumped your load, give the inner sleeve a good washing out. Just don’t leave it on the draining board for your flat mate to find. Ok, you’re convincing me – but it’s still not my dream bottom No, but it’s the next best thing – and will cost you a damn site less to hire too. The ‘Fleshjack Boys’ range comes fashioned in the same shapes and sizes as your favourite porn stars. Take your pick from the Boomer Banks (brave bottoms can opt for the life-size dildo modelled on Boomer’s humongous meat cleaver); the Cody Cummins or the Pierre Fitch – to name just a few. Choose your texture, close your eyes and make them wail! Porn, after all, is now so mainstream and accessible that it’s only logical that you should have the best bit of your favourite idol waiting under your bed. What's YOUR favourite sex toy? Answers below!
  14. Most of us have some sort of sex toy - heck even a range of them! After our review of Fleshlights in the gays.com magazine (which is one of my personal favourites) - tell us your favourite toy(s). Plus, any tips for using them, either by yourself, or with someone else.
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  26. Name is Jason or Jase, I am a Pansexual guy more Gay then anything but i do like some women. But my question is I have never been into the LGBT Community as far as going to clubs, Pride Parades, Dupont Circle and other things like that. I live with my parents sadly but would like to adventure out and go do LGBT community things but don't know where to start. What kind of suggestions would you give a guy like me? I am a 30 year old on disability with no friends at all because they all moved away so it's like I don't know what to do lol. Any Advice would be great.
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